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I am in my early 30s and realizing how everyone is getting older, starting their families around me, and my immediate family is resistant to change.
Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting to distance myself and move out of state, but I have siblings near 40 still co dependent on our mother who is 70 still spending Christmas opening gifts like we are children. One has no family of his own and doesn't want one so it works for them but not me.
Doing the same thing with everyone passing away or over 40 that have moved on with their lives and we are kind of like sitting ducks in the family.
I am ready to brach out and move away, I also think being reliant on elders in the family and not starting your own is unhealthy so I have started distancing myself in hopes of marrying within the next couple of years and having children.
My mom and some of my siblings guilt trip me for it like not spending holidays or wanting to go out with them like back when we were children is a crime. This serves only her to me.
I don't want to be alone when my parents pass and I feel like they should be respectful of my decision to seek companionship and having a family I can call my own. One of my siblings left a long time ago in her 20s and made a disaster of her life, I am mature enough to leave the nest and make better decisions in spouses and who to have kids with.
Going off the trail is seen as unnecessary in my family which is a little toxic imo.
Have any of you experienced this? What age did you distance from your own family to start your own?
Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting to distance myself and move out of state, but I have siblings near 40 still co dependent on our mother who is 70 still spending Christmas opening gifts like we are children. One has no family of his own and doesn't want one so it works for them but not me.
Doing the same thing with everyone passing away or over 40 that have moved on with their lives and we are kind of like sitting ducks in the family.
I am ready to brach out and move away, I also think being reliant on elders in the family and not starting your own is unhealthy so I have started distancing myself in hopes of marrying within the next couple of years and having children.
My mom and some of my siblings guilt trip me for it like not spending holidays or wanting to go out with them like back when we were children is a crime. This serves only her to me.
I don't want to be alone when my parents pass and I feel like they should be respectful of my decision to seek companionship and having a family I can call my own. One of my siblings left a long time ago in her 20s and made a disaster of her life, I am mature enough to leave the nest and make better decisions in spouses and who to have kids with.
Going off the trail is seen as unnecessary in my family which is a little toxic imo.
Have any of you experienced this? What age did you distance from your own family to start your own?