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So I had a lunch date today,me and the guy video chatted said he was very attracted to me,well I like his personality,well once we met up he acted rudely,said I looked much bigger in person,must have use filters for my face yet I said we videochat,n I ain't do no photoshop though that,he was critical yet he wore sweats,and didnt dress up nicely like I did
So I proceeded to leave n then felt awful about myself,I'm done with dating
His pic on tinder vs a selfie he sent me he compared his looks to andre 3000
 

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Ew.

Just something about his face screams "incel".

Men either neg you or love bomb you. Is anyone dating NORMALLY anymore? Everyone has some underline mental illness, mixed with entitlement and self hatred.
 

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Yurtle the Turtle could have been mature enough to keep it cute and then ghost you after the date. That's what normal people do: Get through the disappointing experience and move on.

I am sorry he treated you poorly. It's his loss. Bye, Yurtle! :turtle
 

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My suggestion is videochat first, apps allow you to do so. Do it before giving them your number. Secondly talk to the person at least a week on the app, and another week outside. This will weed out catfishes, idiots, hoteps, judgmental ashy dicks, and more. I would also suggest if you are going to be on tinder you LOWER your expectations, and honestly this includes all app. All of them are owned by the same company, and do nothing to push you in the right direction of the right person.

Also remember this most men are horrible people (most people are), it has nothing to do with you. If you desire a relationship then keep it up. If you don't then move on and focus solely on you.
 

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I had a man tell me, I could gain 20 lbs. They are out of control.


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I also would have politely told him we are not a match after he sent that selfie to rectify his catfish photos.
 

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You have to toughen up and date multiple men until you meet your match
I dated for 6 years before I made a match
Yes, 6 years of jerks
I dated only: no long-term relationship
He is not a match so move on!
You have to let the water, insults, slid off your back kind of like a duck
 

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So I had a lunch date today,me and the guy video chatted said he was very attracted to me,well I like his personality,well once we met up he acted rudely,said I looked much bigger in person,must have use filters for my face yet I said we videochat,n I ain't do no photoshop though that,he was critical yet he wore sweats,and didnt dress up nicely like I did
So I proceeded to leave n then felt awful about myself,I'm done with dating
His pic on tinder vs a selfie he sent me he compared his looks to andre 3000

girl he got alot of nerve! Oh hell naw! He is not attractive. I'm sorry that happened. Don't meet anymore men online if you can help it. i hope you clapped back at saying how he didn't look like his pic. The rudeness of men these days is awful.
 
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So I had a lunch date today,me and the guy video chatted said he was very attracted to me,well I like his personality,well once we met up he acted rudely,said I looked much bigger in person,must have use filters for my face yet I said we videochat,n I ain't do no photoshop though that,he was critical yet he wore sweats,and didnt dress up nicely like I did
So I proceeded to leave n then felt awful about myself,I'm done with dating
His pic on tinder vs a selfie he sent me he compared his looks to andre 3000
Why would he say that to you?? The last date I went on the woman said something similar. What is with these dudes saying shyt like that to yall??
 

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His ears are below his eyes!
He is defective anyways.
Move on and stay the fukk away from pipo who ears are below their eyes
You might get killed.​
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So I had a lunch date today,me and the guy video chatted said he was very attracted to me,well I like his personality,well once we met up he acted rudely,said I looked much bigger in person,must have use filters for my face yet I said we videochat,n I ain't do no photoshop though that,he was critical yet he wore sweats,and didnt dress up nicely like I did
So I proceeded to leave n then felt awful about myself,I'm done with dating
His pic on tinder vs a selfie he sent me he compared his looks to andre 3000
This is exactly how I picture the guys that you ladies write on here about.
What a good day to not date Black men.

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No but for real, don't be done with dating, OP. It's clear you need to raise your standards. What about this guy was even remotely attractive to you? I'm not seeing any of it.
 

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You have to toughen up and date multiple men until you meet your match
I dated for 6 years before I made a match
Yes, 6 years of jerks
I dated only: no long-term relationship
He is not a match so move on!
You have to let the water, insults, slid off your back kind of like a duck

I love that Coco is always telling us to get our sh!t together hugs
 

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I had this happen to me back in college. Said I looked different...which I did. When I met him I had a completely different hair style and color, but I didn't like his tone. Especially when he was shorter, skinnier and less attractive than his pictures.

Luckily we chose to meet up at Black College Week at the amusement park so I just kept it moving with my friends and didn't bother contacting him again.
 

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Ew.

Just something about his face screams "incel".

Men either neg you or love bomb you. Is anyone dating NORMALLY anymore? Everyone has some underline mental illness, mixed with entitlement and self hatred.
I felt he was negging me so u said I used filters yet on videochat u said u were very attrached to me,videochat vs in person cant change drastically I use normal apps to videochat
 

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I'm sorry that happened to you, OP. The dead giveaway should have been that upside down bicycle. I mean, really, who tf poses with a bike turned upside down?! That whole photo says "I'm a fxckboy who only gets temp pxssy on Tinder!"
 

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I had this happen to me back in college. Said I looked different...which I did. When I met him I had a completely different hair style and color, but I didn't like his tone. Especially when he was shorter, skinnier and less attractive than his pictures.

Luckily we chose to meet up at Black College Week at the amusement park so I just kept it moving with my friends and didn't bother contacting him again.
Thanks,literally the first person IN person ever to say I dont look like my pics,saying hes still attrached to me but...
Boy bye
 

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Hmmm he’s very slender and petit.

most likely he was attracted with you in pictures and video but in person he was too insecure due to his size and not yours.
 

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His ears are below his eyes!
He is defective anyways.
Move on and stay the fukk away from pipo who ears are below their eyes
You might get killed.​
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now you have me looking in the mirror to see where my ears at
is this like those eyes that begins with an S (sanpku?)
 

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. . .and Andre 3000?! As in thee Andre Benjamin himself? Chile, you should send this sh!t to Andre. It would behoove him to come out of retirement to roast tf out of this lil ugly duckling. I have seen Andre in person, and he is a beautiful. . .gorgeous. . .handsome. . .fine as hell piece of a man. Buddy here ain't it.
 

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I felt he was negging me so u said I used filters yet on videochat u said u were very attrached to me,videochat vs in person cant change drastically I use normal apps to videochat
Who cares, filters shilters
he is not for you so move on
You will meet men worse than him
Unless you have someone to match make you to a swell guy
Stop analyzing BS and continue loving yourself
Don't allow other people to stress you out
That is the worse type of stress
That is other people garbage​
 

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Naw before he blurted out about me being bigger he said his day was awful with his divorce being finalized n that his ex accused him of assault n he got locked up

1. I'm glad you'r safe.
2. PLEASE do not date men that are separated, divorcing, or newly divorced. I still side eye them if they are 3 years post divorce. They are not right and very broken and unhinged.
 

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now you have me looking in the mirror to see where my ears at
is this like those eyes that begins with an S (sanpku?)
Yes, defective people may have markers on their faces. The comment OP date made sounds like someone on the spectrum may say.
 

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This the life of dating I guess. So he didn't like your size, what is the big deal? Move on I am sure there are other men who like your size. Stop being so damn sensitive and keep it moving. It is all a numbers game.
 

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It's a major red flag. I've had guys neg me and it let me know they were not the one. Also be careful when men neg other women in front of you. I've had guys neg me about my job and make negative comments about certain opinions I had. One guy wouldn't outright say he disagreed, but he would over talk me or laugh at what I'd said.

You just have to reinforce your positive feelings about yourself.
 

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Ew.

Just something about his face screams "incel".

Men either neg you or love bomb you. Is anyone dating NORMALLY anymore? Everyone has some underline mental illness, mixed with entitlement and self hatred.

You gotta suit up in mental armor when dating at this point. It's definitely not for the weak. :(
 

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