I find the double standard of relaxing/perming hair and bleaching funny.
In those recent gina curl/relaxer threads it’s “mind your business”, “they’re doing what’s easiest”, “it’s convenient” but when we see a skin bleacher they’re considered the devil incarnate. Even though they’re both chemical applications to a whiter beauty standard.
I don’t support either, but they’re both seen so differently.
Y’all be more mad at ds people for speaking out about colorism than the people who perpetuate and keep it going.
Imagine where the colorism discussion would be if instead of gaslighting, calling people jealous/bitter, and scolding them for speaking out; we actually uplifted them and held perpetrators accountable.
Its so much easier to blame ds people and say your tired of hearing it. It’s so much easier to look down on someone while telling them to pull themselves up by the bootstraps, with your foot on their back. Y’all soooooo tired of hearing it. IMAGINE LIVING IT!
Most of the people who come flying into these threads (to intentionally deflect the conversation or tell people to get over it) are a huge part of the problem, but they hardly ever get called out.
You can’t be tired of it, but also in every thread about it whining and wondering why it still exists. It’s truly insanity.
Features and hair.I get your point, but there needs to be dark people so that light people have the evil darkiesss to scapegoat. If everyone was the same skin tone, what would most of LSA have to talk about?
Features and hair.
I know it wont end colorism. It would probably make it worse tbh. But goddamn the way yall are in this site is so annoying. You all claim light skin people have more privilege in society and according to certain fonts "more desirable". If I can find the quote I'll insert it here.
But then you claim dark skin women are just soo jealous because ls women are treated better. As if dsbw dont have a right to want better treatment too. (This is a whole other topic but why should dsbp take the backseat and be ok with ls people being on a pedestal of course theres going to be resentment anyway I digress.)
If we all agree the ls people get more opportunities and treated better why do we hate skin bleachers so much?
Maybe if the fonts who are so obsessed with being light skin would just stfu and go bleach then we wouldn't have so many of these threads.
And black people need to destigmatize bleaching because it doesnt make sense to go on about how being ls provides you a better quality of life and then go judge ds people for wanting to be light skin and have access to those privileges.
I know it wont end colorism. It would probably make it worse tbh. But goddamn the way yall are in this site is so annoying. You all claim light skin people have more privilege in society and according to certain fonts "more desirable". If I can find the quote I'll insert it here.
But then you claim dark skin women are just soo jealous because ls women are treated better. As if dsbw dont have a right to want better treatment too. (This is a whole other topic but why should dsbp take the backseat and be ok with ls people being on a pedestal of course theres going to be resentment anyway I digress.)
If we all agree the ls people get more opportunities and treated better why do we hate skin bleachers so much?
Maybe if the fonts who are so obsessed with being light skin would just stfu and go bleach then we wouldn't have so many of these threads.
And black people need to destigmatize bleaching because it doesnt make sense to go on about how being ls provides you a better quality of life and then go judge ds people for wanting to be light skin and have access to those privileges.
OP can you rephrase what you said. I feel like you're trying to say something but I'm missing it. You lost me after the second paragraph. I don't want to preliminarily judge your solution/idea/critique/sarcasm before I really understand what you saying cuz I know some people have a weird way of explaining things. I have friends like this and I be breaking my brain trying to follow them.
Awww aren’t you the font that made a whole ass thread acting bothered that people on here didn’t like weed all bcus you smoke it yourself? girl, WASSUP???
Y’all be more mad at ds people for speaking out about colorism than the people who perpetuate and keep it going.
Imagine where the colorism discussion would be if instead of gaslighting, calling people jealous/bitter, and scolding them for speaking out; we actually uplifted them and held perpetrators accountable.
Its so much easier to blame ds people and say your tired of hearing it. It’s so much easier to look down on someone while telling them to pull themselves up by the bootstraps, with your foot on their back. Y’all soooooo tired of hearing it. IMAGINE LIVING IT!
Most of the people who come flying into these threads (to intentionally deflect the conversation or tell people to get over it) are a huge part of the problem, but they hardly ever get called out.
You can’t be tired of it, but also in every thread about it whining and wondering why it still exists. It’s truly insanity.
Let me also add I hate the way this site act like LS/non-black women can never be jealous of a darker woman.. I've face MOST of my bullying from non-black women and mixed women... and I blame society for this because they teach these women that DS beautiful women do not exist and when they meet one they lose their minds...
I get what you trying to say but you not saying it right..
This site tends to only talk about LS black women/girls getting bullied but rarely truly acknowledge DS black women/girls side of the story... I've literally seen when any subject come up a LS black women direct it towards people being jealous of them.. this is very antagonizing.. and it's usually the most average looking..right at cute girls that do this..(that's another subject) but of course such statements will make a person push back..
From my experience...the blacker you look as a woman the more crap you will face.. for this site to be obtuse on the subject is very frustrating to watch.. sometimes I just stop debating about it..
The problem is due to this obtuse nature within out community is the reason we will continue to keep screaming at Zendaya when she gets a role as a black woman... because we do not address our own hypocrisy..
so you’re just going to straight up lie now?
What is the truth, Laya96? Do you pick and choose what color you are that day based on whether the topic benefits you or not?
Gotdamn I rlly like her font too. OP this is wayyy outta left field coming from you
I appreciate you actually trying to understand this lol cause I'm not trying to actually tell people to go bleach. I tried to be satirical and absurd but almost make a point and it didnt work. My point is until were ready to actually to stop colorism we shouldn't judge bleachers. Alot of fonts say they hate bleachers and are disgusted by them but dont have that energy towards people who perpetuate colorism.
We also dont have that energy for anyone who modifies their body to conform in other ways such as perms, tanning, plastic surgery etc.
There are also alot of fonts who make so many post about how life as a ls person must be better because they have more privilege. I'm not disagreeing with that. But they put so much energy into thinking about ls privilege instead of fighting colorism they might as well become a ls person and just keep it moving because clearly its what they want.
As long as colorism exists were gonna have people chasing whatever they perceive to give them privilege. Whether its lace fronts or bleaching. Why do we antagonize these people instead of attacking the real battle which is colorism itself.
But I'm not wrong though lol. I just got out of a thread where everyone unanimously agreed ls people have privilege and are seen as more "desirable" but then we turn around and stigmatize and shame bleachers. Why?
i agree with your premise, that bleachers shouldn't be made fun of since they're doing what they can to try to better their opportunities by attaining lighter skin, but the issue i have with it is multiple things:I know it wont end colorism. It would probably make it worse tbh. But goddamn the way yall are in this site is so annoying. You all claim light skin people have more privilege in society and according to certain fonts "more desirable". If I can find the quote I'll insert it here.
But then you claim dark skin women are just soo jealous because ls women are treated better. As if dsbw dont have a right to want better treatment too. (This is a whole other topic but why should dsbp take the backseat and be ok with ls people being on a pedestal of course theres going to be resentment anyway I digress.)
If we all agree the ls people get more opportunities and treated better why do we hate skin bleachers so much?
Maybe if the fonts who are so obsessed with being light skin would just stfu and go bleach then we wouldn't have so many of these threads.
And black people need to destigmatize bleaching because it doesnt make sense to go on about how being ls provides you a better quality of life and then go judge ds people for wanting to be light skin and have access to those privileges.
i agree with your premise, that bleachers shouldn't be made fun of since they're doing what they can to try to better their opportunities by attaining lighter skin, but the issue i have with it is multiple things:
1) health concerns
2) lifelong bondage to bleaching, especially so if you marry a guy under 'false pretenses'. you basically have to keep up the ruse of being lightbright just so the man doesn't lose his attraction to you when he finds out you're really of a darker hue
3) it makes it more acceptable to do, which then normalizes it, which then makes it the new status quo- and hopefully you can see why bleaching becoming the status quo it a major problem- it would force black women who don't want to be socially compelled to bleach to do it, much like how ubiquitous relaxers were in the 90s because black women would shame other black women away from natural hair. we don't want to repeat that toxicity and conformity
4) it doesn't change the fact that if you have children (again, going back to marriage/dating/reproduction) they are still going to be darker...so what's the next move, forcing your daughters to bathe in bleach from the time they're in diapers? because many bleachers do go that far, which is very dangerous for poor innocent babies and children. many bleachers would rationalize bleaching their baby girls, following your same logic of "well it'll make her life easier" when all they're doing is damaging her skin and organs.