I went to Philly a few years ago. My old college roomie moved there well to the suburbs of King Of Prussia. I liked it. The mall especially.What about Philly? I don't know, I just hadn't see it mentioned.
I went to Philly a few years ago. My old college roomie moved there well to the suburbs of King Of Prussia. I liked it. The mall especially.What about Philly? I don't know, I just hadn't see it mentioned.
That's a sad reality. As long as black people as a collective won't think on a herd mentality for our communities to flourish, then whites will continue to buy them out from us and build on them (gentrification). This leaves blacks scattered and relocating from city to city and state to state searching for jobs, housing, mates, education, etc. You don't see whites buying out Chinatown in San Francisco and NYC and most large cities. Gentrification is basically modern day Black Wall Street. Black Wall Street was our last thriving community. This is why there should be reparations to rebuild what was lost.So it just seems like there aren't any good places in the US for a thriving majority-black community. You can have one but not the other. And no, if the men are trash and don't want to marry or expect women to provide for them, that's not a "thriving black community" (DC, Atlanta, Houston). And no, if you're in a gentrified area and the majority of the black people are segregated in poor, dangerous hood areas, that's not a "thriving black community" either (Chicago, Philly).
Disagree about the concept of black folks being an insular people. We sure in the hell aren't insular when it comes to white folks if we were our communities or lack there of would look the way they doRelocating for dating threads always miss the mark.
Black folks are an insular people, especially in heavily Black regions and cities marked by segregation. You're more than likely to replicate your lackluster dating experiences in your new city because you are a stranger. A transplant--esp to an old Black community--is going to get men who want to hook up because you have no ties to the local institutions or the major hubs where folks know each other. You aren't marriage material as a transplant with no connection to anything. This is why the font whose friend went to school in Savannah could move back and fit right in: she was integrated into the community by going to college with the locals. She knows the region and the culture.
If marriage is your top goal, you need to go somewhere where you want to settle down for good. Not city hopping to see what you like. Which means you need to think about job prospects (can you rise up in your field), housing prices and stock, income levels for the local Black community (are they employed by hospitals and govt jobs or is everyone stuck in low wage professions), public schools and colleges (quality of K-12 and do Black folks mostly go to the local colleges and come back home), cultural institutions, churches (if that's something you attend), city leadership & government, and the general culture (slow or fast paced, based around church, the movers and shakers are all lawyers or they're all entertainment industry), etc.
Reparations will help yes. But you have to have black folks that want to work together for reparations to do anything meaningful. Reparations are meaningless if all black folks want to do is run away from each other to be included in non black institutions.That's a sad reality. As long as black people as a collective won't think on a herd mentality for our communities to flourish, then whites will continue to buy them out from us and build on them (gentrification). This leaves blacks scattered and relocating from city to city and state to state searching for jobs, housing, mates, education, etc. You don't see whites buying out Chinatown in San Francisco and NYC and most large cities. Gentrification is basically modern day Black Wall Street. Black Wall Street was our last thriving community. This is why there should be reparations to rebuild what was lost.
Exactly people on this site are strange. I don’t even see the point in asking someone else where to move just move to where you want geezI've lived in Houston and the DMV and liked both. Honestly, dating sucks everywhere. Fonts in each of the cities you listed will tell you not to move there, but THEY don't mind staying there themselves lol. Chile.
Follow your heart. Try them all if you want.
Where do you liveBlack people need to stop moving to these same tired cities. Atlanta, Houston, DMV, etc. They're all gentrified and liberal hipster whites don't want black people to succeed there or live there, while they swear they're all for diversity. That's why Atlanta, New Orleans, etc has become dumpy over the years for black people. Most black people who live in Atlanta aren't really living in Atlanta in the first place.
Besides the dating scene in DC, what do you like and dislike about the DMV? What would you like in your next destination? Some people love everything about DC except the price. Others hate everything about it except XYZ. What kept you here for 9 years?
Depends on which region of the country you're living in. But, the most "insular" black communities that I've ever lived in were midwestern and west coast. Since, eastern cities are older with a more diverse population of transplants and natives, black communities aren't like that, unless you're moving to a mid-size city or small townRelocating for dating threads always miss the mark.
Black folks are an insular people, especially in heavily Black regions and cities marked by segregation. You're more than likely to replicate your lackluster dating experiences in your new city because you are a stranger. A transplant--esp to an old Black community--is going to get men who want to hook up because you have no ties to the local institutions or the major hubs where folks know each other. You aren't marriage material as a transplant with no connection to anything. This is why the font whose friend went to school in Savannah could move back and fit right in: she was integrated into the community by going to college with the locals. She knows the region and the culture.
If marriage is your top goal, you need to go somewhere where you want to settle down for good. Not city hopping to see what you like. Which means you need to think about job prospects (can you rise up in your field), housing prices and stock, income levels for the local Black community (are they employed by hospitals and govt jobs or is everyone stuck in low wage professions), public schools and colleges (quality of K-12 and do Black folks mostly go to the local colleges and come back home), cultural institutions, churches (if that's something you attend), city leadership & government, and the general culture (slow or fast paced, based around church, the movers and shakers are all lawyers or they're all entertainment industry), etc.
Nashville! I’m from there and moved here! Love it!I’ve been strongly considering moving from the DMV. I’ve been here for 9 years and I feel like it’s run it’s course.
I want to get married too and as many have stated in other threads, dating is sucky here.
What’s a good city to move to? I’m super flexible. I work for myself. Before the pandemic I considered living in other cities for 1-3 months just to test the waters so I’m open to that being an option now since things seem to be getting “a little better”. Some cities and states never closed anyways.
I want to live in cities where the social scene is decent, African Americans do well, I don’t have major reqs. Cost isn’t an issue. The DMV isn’t the cheapest anyways.
thoughts on Atlanta, Houston, Charlotte?? Any other recommendations?
Op can you take your job with you? I ask because a lot of the cities we are recommending may not pay as much as Dc
Nashville! I’m from there and moved here! Love it!
Hmmm it’s definitely a big city with a small city vibe if that makes sense.Really? This is an honest question, is it a slow city? I’ve always had the impression it is. Are things spread out like some of the other cities that have been suggested?
Hmmm it’s definitely a big city with a small city vibe if that makes sense.
Lots of really good restaurants and a solid community here. Like 2-3 degrees of separation kind of thing. I love it and it’s so easy to make friends. I didn’t get that in the DMV. Traffic isn’t super bad unless you live off 24. Or maybe slightly north of 65.
Lots of black people here too because of the HBCUs. And many black folks are doing well too!
It is spread out but not so much because people are moving here like crazy! Still affordable to live unlike DMV. People are so friendly here.
Love the all fresh food we can get here too. Moving here was one of the best choices of my life! In fact it’s getting a little too big city for me and I will eventually be moving to Chattanooga.
I’ve visited Nashville once and had a good time with my college friend who lives there. We went bar hopping in the Broadway area it’s so pretty with so many bars, etc. We also went to this nice mall and ate some good food. I have two friends from Nashville who left though and moved to Texas they no longer cared to live there. Honestly I like Savannah and Charleston better though for the southern charm, beauty, and having beach access.
I feel you OP. Almost exact situation. Been in DC 5 years and the dating is trash here. It’s also not as easy to get work here unless you have connections or are government. I thought maybe I’d meet someone & marry. I’m not old yet persay but it’s time lol. That other poster made an v interesting point, when you’re a transplant you have less ties so it’s a lot easier for men to not be as serious since you don’t know anyone they do if they fµck you over.
I went to school in Florida as well and I miss the relaxed feel of the south. It depending on your field there may be limited jobs there.
Also lived in Chicago and the Midwest is sooo much colder than the tri-Atlantic. I know some ppl that enjoy it and Chicago is a little cheaper than DC but you kinda are confined to one area and it’s not as easy to make adult friends since there aren’t as many young black professionals.
I know some ppl who like Orlando, Dallas, Los Angeles and Upstate NYC. New Orleans is a fun city but it’s small. Nashville could be cool too! From my knowledge there are not a lot of black men in Denver. I wish you luck. I know my DC time has ran it’s course so I understand how you feel exactly
I went to Broadway and had fun. I’m black but then again my cousins and I were tipsy so..,the bars we went to had a mixed race crowdNashville? Raleigh? OMG LMAO! Just stay in the DMV. Atlanta or Houston are the only other places I would recommend. NC is wack. TN is racist as fµck.
Edit: People that said they had a good time on Broadway in Nashville are white. There aren't many black bars downtown. There are only Weekend, Limelight (ratchet), Minerva, and Willie B's. That is basically it for Nashville. Downtown is full of racist, drunk white people. Don't go there.