Ketayun
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I woke up to this on my phone with a message to call. We don't live in the same state, so there's nothing I can do to be there physically. She's been on my phone crying for several hours. I had no idea she was seeing a married man. I don't even know what to say. Not all married women take this lying down as my friend is learning.
I guess consider this a warning to the homewreckers in states that allow these lawsuits. She's never going to be able to pay what this lady is demanding.
The situation:
She was contacted by work husband: My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
Update: Real husband didn't come home at expected time.
I'll just be linking from posts here on out...
Legal info that explains alienation of affection and criminal conversation:
7 Facts about Alienation of Affection in North Carolina - Sodoma Law
Criminal Conversation and Alienation of Affection: When to Get a Lawyer
I guess consider this a warning to the homewreckers in states that allow these lawsuits. She's never going to be able to pay what this lady is demanding.
The situation:
- My friend received a letter from an attorney demanding $300,000. If she doesn't pay they will file a suit under laws called alienation of affection and criminal conversation. The letter says she has 10 days to contact the law firm with a response. Apparently, you can sue the person your spouse cheats with in NC. The affair took place in NC and SC. The wife is suing my friend under these laws.
- My friend and the married man also had an affair five years ago, but it ended and he went back to his wife. The wife forgave her husband and took him back when the first affair happened.
- My friend and the man work together and have worked together since during both affairs.
- My friend and the married man resumed their affair recently, I guess. The husband bought a condo so he and my friend could hook up without going to a hotel. The wife found out and hired a private investigator and when she had evidence, she contacted an attorney.
- There's surveillance, pictures both at the condo and at their job where they work together. The attorney said they have proof that they carried on after hours at work. ...proof although my friend hasn't seen it all yet.
- My friend is also married and needs to tell her husband. She plans to do that this evening.
- The wife's husband also received a demand letter with a proposed property settlement agreement so it looks like she's suing him as well. Apparently in NC you can divide property right away, but no divorcing until you are separated for an entire year.
- My friend will be telling her own husband about the demand letter tonight.
- Friend contacted me because my husband is a lawyer. I told her he couldn't help because he doesn't do that kind of civil litigation and it's the wrong state. Her family is friends with my family and I have known her since we were kids. We aren't besties and don't hang out due to being in different states, but we stay in touch periodically.
- The messages this morning was the first time I knew about the extra marital relationship including from 5 years ago.
- My friend already called the law firm to confirm the letter is legit.
She was contacted by work husband: My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
Update: Real husband didn't come home at expected time.
- Husband was supposed to be home from work at 6PM EST and didn't show.
- My friend, worried that he hasn't come home yet, logged into his FB account, and found a PM from the wife around 4:30PM to her husband with a cell phone number to call her. The husband didn't respond through PM that she can see, but the message was read before she saw it. Since he hasn't come home, we are assuming there's been a conversation. As of 9:24 EST. He hasn't come home yet.
- I removed the redacted letter from the attorney because one font mentioned posting it on Twitter and because some fonts said I could be banned for posting it. I did not remove it because it was fake or because of the law firm's grammar or casual writing style (making some people accuse me of writing it). She verified the letter with the firm herself so she could make sure it wasn't a nasty prank. I don't care enough to make up a three page letter and an entire backstory to entertain you. Two families are hurting here, including children when everything flushes out. If for whatever reason you think this is fake, you can always find something else to do. I cannot be manipulated into posting identifiable information to prove you wrong, which is what I think some of you are really trying to do. You can keep your skepticism.
I'll just be linking from posts here on out...
- Friend has feelings for work husband and doesn't know what she wants: My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Cheating husband lost his job. My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Friend got to work this morning and was called into HR. My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- HR gives reason for meeting My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Husband finally contacted friend at lunch and said he'd talk to her this evening...My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Checked in on friend... was still taking to husband when I called...My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Update as of 8.27.2020 at 7:40AM EST. I spoke with my friend last night after her convo with her husband....My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Update as of 8.29.2020...Her family finally found out about the affair. I got a telephone call about it. Rumor has it she's moving in with work husband. My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
- Update as of 8.30.2020...friend has moved in with work husband....My friend is being sued by her man's wife and I don't even know what to say...
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Legal info that explains alienation of affection and criminal conversation:
7 Facts about Alienation of Affection in North Carolina - Sodoma Law
Criminal Conversation and Alienation of Affection: When to Get a Lawyer
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