Imemyself
Team Owner
Black people have always called each other names when related to skin complexion and features.
"Get yo Black ass in this house."
"Keep it up, I'm going to slap the Black off you."
"Stay out that sun so you won't get any darker/blacker."
"You Black and ugly."
etc.....
Your mom was in her feelings and trying to hurt your dad. It wasn't right but I think it was more emotional than anti-black. IMHO.
My favorite is "All i have to do is stay black and die!" Black people self- flagellate in the worse ways...and its a terrible thing for kids to be constantly hearing this. Its gotta mess with their self-esteem....and really provides another mental hurdle for them to get past as adults.