apples
Team Owner
I'll stay in my lane and you stay in yours.
My granny would say this, but end it with “but if you come in my lane I’ll run you tf over.”
I'll stay in my lane and you stay in yours.
I get it all the time. You can't just mind your business as a black woman. You are then seen as hostile. At this point and age in my life, I simply don't care.
I get it all the time. You can't just mind your business as a black woman. You are then seen as hostile. At this point and age in my life, I simply don't care.
I get it all the time. You can't just mind your business as a black woman. You are then seen as hostile. At this point and age in my life, I simply don't care.
All these problems y'all are complaining about can be applied to social and professional situations involving other Black people as well.
Black people don't stick together and stay on code.
I would say the biggest thing is people thinking they know you. People assuming what you are like, what you like and don't like and trying to form connections with you based on stereotypes.
1. Assuming I like certain types of music
2. Assuming I only like and am attracted to black men
3. Assuming what types of food I eat
4. Assuming that I'm confrontational
5. Assuming that I'm materialistic
6. Assuming I'm angry and loud
Other black people can be just as guilty of these assumptions as non-black people.
I agree with you to a certain extent.
I also avoid Black humans in the workplace. Because the current climate America is in, almost 8/10 times, all skinfolk ain't kinfolk. In this America of today, a lot of Black people want to be accepted by "the others" before their own. I'm not sure if age or location plays a major part in what I've witnessed, but I know for sure, many Black women/ humans would rather side with their oppressor than to be considered an outcast or different than their white counterparts.
In 2019 when I meet Black people, the first question I think of is what type of Black person are you?
You are talking about bad energy; it’s everywhere now.this is so real. Dealing with this rn. There aren't too many blck folks where I live. Its only ytes and Azians and oh my lord I go through it every day especially at work. I want to leave and be in an area that's more diverse however I don't want them to think they won. It can be so hard on your mental health. The constant microaggressions, the disrespect. It would be nice to have a day when you are not fighting
Even if I’ve known them for ten years, I don’t want to hear about their pets, husband, kids, vacation, tannin experience, Pinterest board, in laws, personal problems, financial woes,etc.I'm always quiet when I start a new job and I always get asked by white coworkers why am I so quiet. I be wanting to say, I DON'T KNOW YOU, KAREN so bad
Reminds me of the black woman spy sketch on Black Lady Sketch Show. The gist was that she was the best in the field because people totally ignored her.Black women have to accept that we are both invisible and hyper visible at the same time.
Stop trying to get them to trust you. Just be yourself.I feel like I don’t matter at work,i feel i work hard or even harder but for some strange reason im not trusted.
When I was on a travel assignment my agency provided a condo for me. I was the lone brown face in the entire complex. Every other day I was scrutinized. Neighbors would see me in scrubs and ask if I was a caregiver for so and so. The last straw was when management stood over me as I swam in the pool one morning. Came out of the office to remind me that the pool was for residents and not employees. Needless to say, that will never happen to me again.No, you aren't alone and don't ever feel guilty about it. White people dont explain why they only have white friends, Asians sure don't...heck, I even had an Asian colleague openly state they would never move somewhere if they didn't have a sizable Asian population in the area because his wife wouldn't hear of it. He said that at work without a care in the world. Why should we feel we need to explain ourselves and who we feel comfortable? I never trust non blacks to have my back at work; I play chess, they are a means to an end nothing more and nothing less.
I’m the queen of acting like they’re invisible. I will walk off mid conversation. Hell, one minute into the conversation I’ll dip if it’s not important. I know it’s rude AF but time is money and if they’re not talking business. Peace out. Deuces.I had a conversation like this with a wm friend. He and coworkers would go eat lunch together everyday. I said if I worked there I would be the person who was not a part of the lunch group and would stay in my office/eat alone. He knows I’m antisocial. But in his view he would be offended by the person who stays in their office instead of eating with the group, taking it to mean the person thought they were too good or some kind of big deal where they didn’t want to socialize with others. This man told me out of his mouth he would take it personally if a coworker didn’t want to get lunch with the group.
WP are extremely fragile with the lowest self esteem you can imagine. Bp stay measuring things according to Wp without even getting that they are the most miserable group of people around.
while i have experienced the stuff other posters mentioned at my own job, it now happens more in customer service settings. i am so tired of people implying that i will be difficult so therefore i shouldn't be treated fairly or having people always implying that i am stealing or trying to do something illegal. i have reported some of the really outrageous behavior and now i actively avoid certain stores but it is exhausting. i shouldn't be made to feel like a criminal for spending MY money or using a service i paid for.
How did you handle that?Needless to say, that will never happen to me again.
I had my agency give me the housing stipend and I find my own housing. I research the property, demographics & reviews on corporate housing websites myself before moving in.How did you handle that?
“The function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being. Somebody says you have no language and you spend twenty years proving that you do. Somebody says your head isn’t shaped properly so you have scientists working on the fact that it is. Somebody says you have no art, so you dredge that up. Somebody says you have no kingdoms, so you dredge that up. None of this is necessary. There will always be one more thing.”
-Toni Morrison
REMEMBER THIS. Toni said this about racism, but the same applies to sexism, your preferences no matter how innocuous, your opinions, the way you choose to live your life... the purpose of all of this is to keep US in a constant state of trauma and unease and steal our mental and physical resources.
Black women are convinced that they must be universally liked to be happy, we must be accepted to be content. This is an impossible task by design. There's only but so much one can do to "get along", and after that point it's a pointless clusterfuck. DISENGAGE.
This is ironic because there's a 13 page thread dragging a black female artist because she doesn't give interviews
You heard that?
LSA, a site full of black women has a thread dragging a black woman for minding her business and not getting involved in petty drama.
It speaks volumes that just about anybody would be applauded for this behavior but a black woman simply minding her business is enough to warrant constant circle jerks,a jealousy and hatred.
But I mean when your great what else can they do? Your mere presence as a black woman can trigger some people. Stay gracious the best revenge is your paper, remember that.
Thank youI had my agency give me the housing stipend and I find my own housing. I research the property, demographics & reviews on corporate housing websites myself before moving in.
Did you tell them the reason for providing a stipend versus allowing them to find corporate housing on your behalf?I had my agency give me the housing stipend and I find my own housing. I research the property, demographics & reviews on corporate housing websites myself before moving in.
They're not your allies and never were just because they are non-white. That’s why when I hear Michael Eric Dyson (bumbling fool) excitedly yellin about “black and brown people” it lets you know how confused black people are. This POC broken record played to black people is primarily to make us give time, attention, money, resources and votes to people that have nothing in common with us other than the fact that they’re not white.
I am so glad you said this. BM have the SAME problem. But we are all seen the same at times because we can’t get struggling and disrespectful BM to change their minds.The most frustrating thing of being a black woman is trying to help other black women out with their confidence but they don’t see the light
Black women have to accept that we are both invisible and hyper visible at the same time.
I had an obnoxious hispanic woman who hated me simply because I wouldn't divulge personal information about myself. It was so scary. She looked at me like she wanted to kill me. The job practically gave me PTSD. It was a temp assignment and she ended the assignment early because of my supposed incompetence. Super fake.
Also all of the black people except for me were very stereotypical and I think she was upset I wouldn't tap dance for her. And when I mean stereotypical I mean screaming on the top of their lungs. One black woman was very fat and very hood. Two of the other black woman were baby mammas. And I just kept to myself. And the hispanic woman from Florida would put on this fake black accent. Ugh.
Nonblack minorities are just as aggravating! They want to cling to being more accepted by whites than us while pulling the minority card when we bring up how problematic they are also.
All these problems y'all are complaining about can be applied to social and professional situations involving other Black people as well.
Black people don't stick together and stay on code.
I am more suspicious of nonblack minorities
I had one befriend me, and we were friendly enough. She knew about the struggles of my current job (as I wasn't getting trained on anything and I would literally have one hour of work to sustain me per day).
About 6 months in, she just stopped talking to me altogether. Then I noticed that colleagues in the office, who would once acknowledge and greet me in the halls. Stopped doing so. People went out of their way to avoid me altogether.
I don't know what story she took from me and spun. But it just goes to show, that 'allies' cannot be trusted as much as a white person.
I am more suspicious of nonblack minorities
I had one befriend me, and we were friendly enough. She knew about the struggles of my current job (as I wasn't getting trained on anything and I would literally have one hour of work to sustain me per day).
About 6 months in, she just stopped talking to me altogether. Then I noticed that colleagues in the office, who would once acknowledge and greet me in the halls. Stopped doing so. People went out of their way to avoid me altogether.
I don't know what story she took from me and spun. But it just goes to show, that 'allies' cannot be trusted as much as a white person.
too many non-blacks on lsa for ya'll to be spilling your hearts out like this
Story of my life so far.
Blacks can be clickish too and if you don't go to lunch with them, go out for drinks, tell them your personal business......If you choose not to get too close to nonblacks in any type of situation for whatever reason then they obsess over you and paint you out to be this nasty person who refuses to be a team player or that you can’t get along with other people.
Just something that I’ve noticed.