Writerdie18
I'm the problem, it's me
Anyone else deal with this growing up?
I didn't find out my dad had prostate cancer (and a slew of other medical issues) until he was on hospice and had weeks to live. I'd only known about the congestive heart failure.
My mom has also always been secretive/iffy about her medical issues (but then has the nerve to say that we don't care about her). Before I stopped talking to her, the only thing I knew she had was type 1 diabetes and that's because she told me when I was very young. But there was a period of time around 2010 when she lost a lot of weight for some unexplained reason. She also has trouble walking long distances. And before COVID, she had to have surgery on the carotid arteries in her neck to fix blockages. Now I guess they're back to being blocked because my sis texted me that my mom might have possibly had a stroke yesterday and the doctors are keeping her. She's not even 60.
Why does it seem like especially black parents keep diagnosis hidden from their kids? They're not helping or protecting us from anything. As a 30 year old woman (24 when my dad died) I'd rather know how serious things are vs being out of the loop.
If you're a parent please don't do this to your kids.
I didn't find out my dad had prostate cancer (and a slew of other medical issues) until he was on hospice and had weeks to live. I'd only known about the congestive heart failure.
My mom has also always been secretive/iffy about her medical issues (but then has the nerve to say that we don't care about her). Before I stopped talking to her, the only thing I knew she had was type 1 diabetes and that's because she told me when I was very young. But there was a period of time around 2010 when she lost a lot of weight for some unexplained reason. She also has trouble walking long distances. And before COVID, she had to have surgery on the carotid arteries in her neck to fix blockages. Now I guess they're back to being blocked because my sis texted me that my mom might have possibly had a stroke yesterday and the doctors are keeping her. She's not even 60.
Why does it seem like especially black parents keep diagnosis hidden from their kids? They're not helping or protecting us from anything. As a 30 year old woman (24 when my dad died) I'd rather know how serious things are vs being out of the loop.
If you're a parent please don't do this to your kids.