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LOVEMESOMEJOEL

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I am getting married next week and I just found out my husband to be has been contacting his ex jump-off as recently as today. We plan to have a whole life together and I know he never had feelings for her but, I am not sure what to do. Do I go ahead with my family to be and let that die out, or do I leave him alone.

What would you all do. I would hate to leave and then be in the same situation with the next man. I am 30 and I don't have kids yet. I REALLY love him and I am confused. I was coming from his house last night and someone stopped in the middle of the street to look at me, I have a feeling it was her. I don't know if he called and then asked her about it or what. But we have cell phones on my plan, and I looked today and saw the number. Now his phone is turned off.

The thing is we were not having xes. I called myself trying to wait for marriage and to lose weight and be celibate in a relationship. I am not a virgin and we have had xes 3 times before, in 2.5 years. I feel like this is my fault. I also feel that this is my fault because I gained weight and I have been slow to lose it. I gained like 80 pounds and he likes a woman who is not fat. The woman has a big stomach but she is a size 12. I am a 18. I'm fly, don't get me wrong but, I need advice on what would you all do?
 

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my concern is him contacting ex jumpoffs
whats the point?? you should be his main focus and concern.
 

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i would leave him but that's just cause i'm a hard ass and refuse to deal with BS. obviously u want this to work so talk to him about it see what he has to say (even tho u already know what that's gonna be) and make it loud and clear that u won't put up with lies.

unless u want to which i doubt.......
 

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#1 - She was never the "ex" jumpoff. They are more than likely still sleeping together. If you guys only slept together three times in 2 and a 1/2 years where do you think he was releasing all that. Was she a jumpoff in the previous relationship he had or was she a jumpoff during your relationship.

#2 - If you start off overlooking you will always be overlooking.
 

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:err:

Slowly backs outta the thread ...
 

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you only had xes with him 3 times in over a 2 year period!!!!
and he still wanna marry you,sh!t hold that ***** down girl,lol:clap:
 

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Have u talked to him?

If you want to be one of those pitiful women always coming up with excuses for their cheating man, raising daughters to expect infidelity and sons to be dishonest like their daddy...then marry him!
 

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before you make any decisions TALK TO HIM. Ask yourself do you believe him because if you've been with him for this many years you should be able to tell if hes lying..
 

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i know you're not having xes with him but does he at least want to? are yall dry humping or giving head or something? if not i'd question whether or not he's even attracted to me. and if that's the case you can bet that he will still be sex!ng ol girl.

The last thing you want is to be married and still ain't getting none cause the jumpoff is getting the d thats legally yours. I'd be careful with this one but that's just me.
 

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if he was calling the girl as recently as today.......then that tells you everything you need to know.

dont be dumb. love aint blind, you just choose to be blinded by what YOU want.

he's cheating on you, and has no real reason to stop AFTER yall get married. Wake up. *rolling eyes*
 

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It's inclear if you have even spoken to him about what you know which is a bad way to go into a marriage.
 

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He's lying only a short time before the wedding. You not sleeping with him much is no excuse for his cheating because he still agreed to commit to you and should have practiced some self control. And speaking of self control you also need to worry about yourself and why you've gained 80 lbs, a size 18 is not healthy. Work on yourself and leave him.

Women, we have to stop accepting these cheating men with the idea that every new man will also cheat. this is why they do it! Its became accepted by so many. We cry, yell, get angry...leave...and come right back. Why?! They sure wouldn't! I don't know any man that would let a female just repeatedly cheat on him. The more of us that say NO to this bµllsh!t, the better it will be for all of us. < yes I know cheating isn't going anywhere but at the least you'll be doing better for yourself by choosing not to accept it in your life
 

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You need to move on with your life. Is this the same guy and woman from the last thread?
 

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