DaughterofHermione
At your man’s house going through his wallet
It’s giving serial killer vibes.
Meet in a public place..why waste all of that time chatting? People are so different in person so it’s best to meet sooner than later. Just be smart about it.
Agreed about the sooner the better!!! Majoity of the good dates Ive been on had limited conversation. Ive only had one bad date for drinks I left after the first drink lol. Not because he was creepy but because it was just lame. But you can assess based on interaction and where he picks for dinner. Now a guy who messages you immediately about meeting, especially those with the lets meet tonight are a NO. But im against long never ending coversations with someone who lives within an hour of you. The sooner you meet the better as its very easy to talk and fake who they are, what they want and are willing to do when they havent met you. I fell for that in my early 20s and learned my lesson.
If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. But most men want to meet up right away, even the good ones.
It’s a red flag. Please don’t let the desperate crew bully you into thinking something is wrong with you for wanting to be careful.So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?
How is anything a red flag when it concerns your safety? Meetups can and have gone tragically wrong if you require specific information to vet individuals so that you feel comfortable meeting them In person, the only red flag would be if they had a problem with why you needed it.
Def a red flag. I would require a FT and a few phone convos before I went on a date. That helps you weed them out quickly. You’ll be able to pick up on any weird psycho killer vibes (hopefully) and if they’re just tryna take you out to smash vibes. Usually guys wanna FT me or video chat on the app to see if I’m a catfish smh lol they’ve said they’ve been catfished too many times and wanna make sure it’s me smh
So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?
Dating apps is not the best for someone who never dated....What you both say may very well be true. But I’ve been single my whole life so I’m wondering if my cautious approach has made me overthink things and miss out on potential relationships.
So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?
unless hes inviting you to his home or a hotel, youre overreacting. A man knows hes interested in the 1st 20 secs and a woman knows in the 1st 4 so if the interest isnt there for you, it isnt there and youre looking for a reason to justify your no.
He didn’t specify a place but I made it clear in my profile that I don’t do hookups. He said we share mutual interests so I figured he wanted to go on a real date.
No it is not a red flag. This generation just prefers to text bc they have poor verbal/in person social skills. You don’t really get to know people through text and some of us prefer to skip that and face time or talk in person where you get how the person really is. Face time him instead of texting. If the date is in a public place and you’re meeting there vs him picking you up, I don’t see how you think it’s a red flag.So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?
You need to remember that many people of this generation have poor social skills. That’s why they’re reacting the way the are.unless hes inviting you to his home or a hotel, youre overreacting. A man knows hes interested in the 1st 20 secs and a woman knows in the 1st 4 so if the interest isnt there for you, it isnt there and youre looking for a reason to justify your no.
Itś a red flag for sure.
Don't meet them.
I wish you girls would learn how to attend to yourself so you wouldn't be so desperate to find 'a man' that you even get on these dating apps.
They are full of creeps.
It is a red flag if you haven’t had a single conversation. Typically means a guy who’s trying to fµck and dip.
But at the same time, you shouldn’t be texting for weeks with no meet up in sight. It should take within 7 days max to set up a date. Two weeks is pushing it, but if your schedules aren’t really aligning then okay.
If all he said was that you 2 share mutual interest then that's not asking you out tho or even asking you to meet up.He didn’t specify a place but I made it clear in my profile that I don’t do hookups. He said we share mutual interests so I figured he wanted to go on a real date.
I don't feel it's a red flag. Some men would just prefer to get to know you in person. I prefer to meet fairly quickly too. I can't keep up back and forth messages for more than a week without getting bored.So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?
I would love to see a source for those numbers. I am a woman and I can tell you that 4 seconds after I meet a man I still haven't made it down to his shoes yet, let alone know if I am interested in him. Maybe that's just me though....unless hes inviting you to his home or a hotel, youre overreacting. A man knows hes interested in the 1st 20 secs and a woman knows in the 1st 4 so if the interest isnt there for you, it isnt there and youre looking for a reason to justify your no.
She should be meeting in a public place and taking precautions against stalking on the first few dates anyway, no matter how long they have been talking.Like I said you should know someone before meeting them, you don’t want to meet with a crazy stalker or a rapist.
Thank you. You can tell most of the people in here are only used to young, immature, dusty fboys.a man wants to know the attraction level of his date, and the fact that he isn't interested in wasting time with school girl phone conversations speaks to his desire to actually seriously explore the possibility of a relationship. pretty yourself up and go meet that man for coffee/tea/drinks.
I feel like this is the heart of it. Low self-esteem. I am willing to meet guys early because I know he will like what he sees. And if he doesn't, I get to scratch him off the list real quick without wasting time on the phone.It depends .
It's not good to stay to do too much virtual talking either , a couple of facetimes should be enough to know if you feel confortable with someone , prolonging too much can be a sign you lack self-esteem , you dont want him to see your real appearance .
That's why they are so bent out of shape when some dusty ghosts themWhen dating you want options meaning not spending weeks talking to the same dude, romanticizing the conversation, and placing all your eggs in that one basket.
She won't. She will take the necessary precautions, meet in a public place and not share her personal information. The only way she can end up hurt is if she goes off alone with him and no one is advocating that. Any woman who cannot guard her personal safety should not be dating.But if OP ends up in the true crime forum you will all be on your high horses judging the deceased.
There is none. It comes back to self-esteem. They feel that if he approaches out and about, they already know he likes how she looks. Online, they want to hide behind the endless talking because they are scared he will reject them face to face.I just don’t understand the difference between a cute stranger you meet in the grocery store and a cute stranger you meet online.
Y’all pls be careful w these crazy men online!!! Some guy found my IG, and because we’re both artists he never asked me did I want to meet up, he just said we would be doing it. We had barely spoke and it was only about art. Even said he would be driving an hour out to my college. I said NO more than once.So on dating apps I’ve had men that want to go on a date before we’ve even exchanged more than a couple of messages. I prefer to build a connection through conversation before I feel comfortable meeting in person.
Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?