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This is kinda long, sorry in advance! So I've been dipping my toe into the dating scene as a baby bisexual and I met this one girl online. Let's call her Carolyn. She and I really hit it off after the first date, and my feelings have grown more and more ever since. I don't really have my life together right now, and am still living at home, so I wanted to wait until I got into my MBA program so I could move out and formally ask her out. We've been seeing each other for about three months and having xes and stuff (the xes is amazing yall!). I admitted to her that I liked her, and this was very hard to do for me cause I'm not too good at expressing emotion and this is my first time seriously pursuing a girl. It seemed like she liked me back too.
Recently, she asked me to have a threesome with her and her guy "friend" who she had messed around with earlier. Now I was smelling bµllsh!t from the beginning of this, but I thought I was just being jealous since this was my first threesome. We get to the day of, and she cancels on me because she couldn't get a good hotel or whatever. I was okay with that so I didn't pay it any mind. Until I decided to peep her Snap story just to see what she was doing (my simp ass). I saw her boo'd up with ol dude we were supposed to have a threesome with and going on dates with him!
I blew tf up. She says she doesn't understand why i'm getting so angry, and start saying the time we spent together was just for xes. Then she says she likes me back. Then she says that she's wanting to try out polyamory and that she wanted me in on it. She NEVER told me she was poly! And I say "Is that your fµck!ng boyfriend?! You said you were single!" She never told me she had a boyfriend either! She kept me in the dark about this, and then goes on to say that she just started dating this ***** 2 months ago! I was extremely hurt. What about all the times she was openly jealous of me seeing other people cause we weren't official? And all this sh!t about wanting to be my girl? It seemed she wanted girlfriend perks while keeping me in the dark about everything. I told her she should only contact me for xes and nothing more. I was really sad for days afterwards, cause I could not believe she did this to me. I'm not even sure if i'm open to being in a polyamorous relationship.
Anyways' we recently were able to reach an understanding and she apologized for everything. She apologized for her communication being off and for leaving me in the dark about everything. I told her I wasn't sure if I wanted to deal with her past this whole thing, and she said she understood. Now i'm torn. Where should I go from here? I can't help it, I still like her despite this incident but i'm so used to having and being in monogamous relationships and I am not sure if I could fathom sharing her with someone. Or should i just concentrate on just having xes with her and nothing more because of the way she treated me? Or should I consider being in a polyamorous relationship and just reap the possible benefits of still seeing her and being her girlfriend, while openly entertaining other people?
Recently, she asked me to have a threesome with her and her guy "friend" who she had messed around with earlier. Now I was smelling bµllsh!t from the beginning of this, but I thought I was just being jealous since this was my first threesome. We get to the day of, and she cancels on me because she couldn't get a good hotel or whatever. I was okay with that so I didn't pay it any mind. Until I decided to peep her Snap story just to see what she was doing (my simp ass). I saw her boo'd up with ol dude we were supposed to have a threesome with and going on dates with him!
I blew tf up. She says she doesn't understand why i'm getting so angry, and start saying the time we spent together was just for xes. Then she says she likes me back. Then she says that she's wanting to try out polyamory and that she wanted me in on it. She NEVER told me she was poly! And I say "Is that your fµck!ng boyfriend?! You said you were single!" She never told me she had a boyfriend either! She kept me in the dark about this, and then goes on to say that she just started dating this ***** 2 months ago! I was extremely hurt. What about all the times she was openly jealous of me seeing other people cause we weren't official? And all this sh!t about wanting to be my girl? It seemed she wanted girlfriend perks while keeping me in the dark about everything. I told her she should only contact me for xes and nothing more. I was really sad for days afterwards, cause I could not believe she did this to me. I'm not even sure if i'm open to being in a polyamorous relationship.
Anyways' we recently were able to reach an understanding and she apologized for everything. She apologized for her communication being off and for leaving me in the dark about everything. I told her I wasn't sure if I wanted to deal with her past this whole thing, and she said she understood. Now i'm torn. Where should I go from here? I can't help it, I still like her despite this incident but i'm so used to having and being in monogamous relationships and I am not sure if I could fathom sharing her with someone. Or should i just concentrate on just having xes with her and nothing more because of the way she treated me? Or should I consider being in a polyamorous relationship and just reap the possible benefits of still seeing her and being her girlfriend, while openly entertaining other people?