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Am I Wilding for thinking my friend is immature?

Shes talking to this guy who's sooo sweet. She admits he's so attentive mature, handsome & he has a nice career. Though she's constantly going on dates with him, she refuses to give him a real shot because he's 5'10, meanwhile she's only 5'3..

Keep in mind she's never been in a serious relationship. She only goes after guys who are 6'2 & up but they all treat her like trash, make her the side chick etc.

Am I buggen for thinking it's silly to throw away someone who fits everything in your check list but the height ? I would understand if dude was 5'3 but she's literally not even taller than him even with heels.
 

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She'll learn hopefully sooner than later!

She's 5'3 everybody should be tall to her! She tryna look like Shaq and Hoopz walking thru the mall....I guess!
 

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Shes talking to this guy who's sooo sweet. She admits he's so attentive mature, handsome & he has a nice career. Though she's constantly going on dates with him, she refuses to give him a real shot because he's 5'10, meanwhile she's only 5'3..

First, let's understand that he is all of these things while he is pursuing her. There is no guarantee that it will always be that way.

Second, if she don't want to date him seriously, she doesn't have to. No matter what her reason is, it's her reason.

Don't date nothing or nobody you don't want to marry, and if she don't want to marry a short man because she knows she doesn't want short children ... thems the breaks.

If he's that great, he'll be aight.
 

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First, let's understand that he is all of these things while he is pursuing her. There is no guarantee that it will always be that way.

Second, if she don't want to date him seriously, she doesn't have to. No matter what her reason is, it's her reason.

Don't date nothing or nobody you don't want to marry, and if she don't want to marry a short man because she knows she doesn't want short children ... thems the breaks.

If he's that great, he'll be aight.

I get that people have preferences, I have mine too.

But don't complain about being single and men are trash etc meanwhile you're only dating ONE type.
 

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Yea, she’s being immature, but if that’s her preference, you can’t force attraction. *deep sigh*

I’m barely 5’4” and typically date tall men, too, but I don’t dismiss guys just because they’re shorter.

5’10” is actually about average/slightly taller than average, so even in high heels, men like that are still a bit taller than me... I’ll be honest, though... Even though I’m kinda short, there’s still something fun about hopping into the arms of a 6’+ man, lol.

I just started talking to a guy much similar to what you described (plus he’s over 30 w/ no children-:b72 , solid career), except he’s like 5’6”-7”. I personally think it would be petty for me to dismiss him due to height, but if she’s going to treat him like less of a man subconsciously because she thinks he’s too small, she needs to leave him be versus wasting time.
 

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I get that people have preferences, I have mine too.

But don't complain about being single and men are trash etc meanwhile you're only dating ONE type.

When she is ready to date something else, she will. But, regardless of what you think of this guy, or even what she has said about him, the reality is, that he is still not the one to change her mind.

Another short dude may be, but this one isn't.

Is the dude your brother or cousin? Why are you this upset?
 

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Am I Wilding for thinking my friend is immature?

Shes talking to this guy who's sooo sweet. She admits he's so attentive mature, handsome & he has a nice career. Though she's constantly going on dates with him, she refuses to give him a real shot because he's 5'10, meanwhile she's only 5'3..

Keep in mind she's never been in a serious relationship. She only goes after guys who are 6'2 & up but they all treat her like trash, make her the side chick etc.

Am I buggen for thinking it's silly to throw away someone who fits everything in your check list but the height ? I would understand if dude was 5'3 but she's literally not even taller than him even with heels.
She’s ridiculous. So superficial.
 

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When she is ready to date something else, she will. But, regardless of what you think of this guy, or even what she has said about him, the reality is, that he is still not the one to change her mind.

Another short dude may be, but this one isn't.

Is the dude your brother or cousin? Why are you this upset?

I'm not upset. I'm just always constantly listening to her love life. I'm a bit frustrated and over it
 

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Am I Wilding for thinking my friend is immature?

Shes talking to this guy who's sooo sweet. She admits he's so attentive mature, handsome & he has a nice career. Though she's constantly going on dates with him, she refuses to give him a real shot because he's 5'10, meanwhile she's only 5'3..

Keep in mind she's never been in a serious relationship. She only goes after guys who are 6'2 & up but they all treat her like trash, make her the side chick etc.

Am I buggen for thinking it's silly to throw away someone who fits everything in your check list but the height ? I would understand if dude was 5'3 but she's literally not even taller than him even with heels.

She's gonna have to learn the hard way.
 

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I'm not upset. I'm just always constantly listening to her love life. I'm a bit frustrated and over it

So, you need to address what your real issue is: how you feel she treats you, not how you feel she treats short men.

Just tell her that you don't want to discuss romance because you both have differing views, and you don't want to lose a friend over a man.

Now, if it's a situation of that she has a more vibrant and active love life to talk about than you do in these discussions, then once again, that's a YOU problem, not a her problem.
 

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So, you need to address what your real issue is: how you feel she treats you, not how you feel she treats short men.

Just tell her that you don't want to discuss romance because you both have differing views, and you don't want to lose a friend over a man.

Now, if it's a situation of that she has a more vibrant and active love life to talk about than you do in these discussions, then once again, that's a YOU problem, not a her problem.
Wtf r u talking about??
 

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5'10 is the perfect height. tall enough to where i can wear heels, but not that tall to hide his thot tendencies from the world
 

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Short men can be deceiving. They work extra hard to get you and then the minute you give in and marry them... here comes the change up. If she isn't feeling it, let her keep it moving. The second she settles and it backfires, she is gonna cuss you out for convincing her he was her (pint-sized) prince charming.
 

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I like 6'0 and above guys too but I'm tall. 5'10 to me is like shoulder length and I dont like that.

That's just my preference.

Lol. He has a good career so she needs to factor that in. Most guys with good careers are 5'7 (barf) so shes lucky to meet a guy with a food height and other great attributes
 

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Nah op I disagree. Don't shame your friend for HER standards, it's her life and her choice.

Yeah he is playing the role of prince charming now but a lot of men do at the start, it doesn't mean anything
 

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I was going to be like so what that’s her preference especially if she’s a tall girl herself but seeing that your friend is 5’3 makes the whole thing so stupid. She’s STILL going to be shorter than him and even with heels on...


She seems immature. Let her find someone else lol. I’m sure there’s some other girl that the dude will get
 

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I was going to be like so what that’s her preference especially if she’s a tall girl herself but seeing that your friend is 5’3 makes the whole thing so stupid. She’s STILL going to be shorter than him and even with heels on...


She seems immature. Let her find someone else lol. I’m sure there’s some other girl that the dude will get
He will then she's going to cry in the group chat about good men not checking for her
 

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Sometimes I think that some women with these strict height requirements want to be able to brag that their man is 6’0 and above. Because at 5’3, a man that is 5’10 is 7 inches taller than you which is still significant IMO. Like how does a short woman decipher which man is 5’10 and which man is 6’2, both these men tower over you. Lol, to each their own though...
 

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He will then she's going to cry in the group chat about good men not checking for her


U know what, she should ghost him. In fact I think everyone should date their preference. That way you don’t end up making your partner feel insecure simply because they weren’t ur preference. Imagine she dates this dude then starts always bringing up his height and always reminding him of how much she prefers taller guys. That would hurt him so he is better off with someone on the same page as him
 

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