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Just to give some context before I elaborate I suffer from severe Social Anxiety, I'm Introverted and I've been with my S.O for around 4 years.
Last night, after getting back from a little baecation we go to my S.O's place so I sit down in the living room and start watching the news on my iPad. One of his friends comes by since he was in the area to smoke (I was already expecting this person to show up so it was prepared) so I just continue on my iPad since I don't smoke weed.
Then his neighbor comes knocking to get/buy some of his weed and my S.O tells him he doesn't really have enough to sell but he can smoke with him & his friend. So the neighbor was like ok I left my boy alone in my apartment can he come over too and I'll bring some liquor back, my S.O agrees and he leaves to get his friend. Now, mind you I don't drink or smoke and I'm already feeling a little nervous about this spontaneous gathering but I just continue to sit back with my iPad.
So, the neighbor comes back with his friend and the bottle of liquor to smoke and he tells my S.O to turn on some music while they smoke & stuff, which he does. My S.O then comes over to me with the liquor bottle and tries to give me some to which I reply "You know I don't drink" and laugh it off. So, I'm really just sitting by myself watching my iPad while they're smoking/drinking, having random convos and stuff and I after a while I get up to use the bathroom. When I comeback his neighbor kinda stared at me and me uncomfortable (as I mentioned earlier I have Social Anxiety and am Introverted) so I notice the show I was watching was about to end so I take that as an opportunity to head home since I'm not partaking with them anyways. I let my S.O know that I'm going home to watch my shows and quietly gather up my things.
He walks with me to the door with this bothered look on his face and when I get out in the hall he asks, "How I'm getting home?" so I tell him I'll take either the bus or train whichever comes first since I don't live that far but I needed to check the App first. Then he makes a comment about me embarrassing him because I just got up and was leaving in front of his people with liquor on his breath. I'm confused, so I remind him that I don't hang out with people that I don't know and remind him of my anxiety (that he's obviously aware of). So he kinda starts trying to check me and I stop him in his tracks and tells him to call me once he sobers up cause he's clearly having a lapse of memory at this point and walk off. He catches up to me and grabs onto my arm causing me to get annoyed/irritated so I tell him "Don't touch me" and we have a little argument and he says something about I can't just do him any kind of way and some other BS like that and I call him drunk/high again we go our separate ways.
He tries to call me a couple minutes later but I ignore it and he starts text bombing me. So I just call him and he gets on the phone sounding like he trying to check me again in front of his people so I tell him again to call me when he sobers up and reminds him of my anxiety again and hang up. He texts me some more and he starts saying he's hurt and all this and that and that they were just smoking and his neighbors ended up leaving and he doesn't understand and demands an apology. I keep telling him you know I'm not comfortable around people I don't know and if I get nervous I'll just leave on my own accord. That he knows this about me and I've been consistent over the last 4 years since it's extremely rare and non existent that I willingly do stuff like that especially spontaneous kickbacks like that.
So, am I in the wrong as he feels for just up and leaving like that in front of his people (who I wasn't interacting with anyways) when he known for years about my anxiety issues?
Last night, after getting back from a little baecation we go to my S.O's place so I sit down in the living room and start watching the news on my iPad. One of his friends comes by since he was in the area to smoke (I was already expecting this person to show up so it was prepared) so I just continue on my iPad since I don't smoke weed.
Then his neighbor comes knocking to get/buy some of his weed and my S.O tells him he doesn't really have enough to sell but he can smoke with him & his friend. So the neighbor was like ok I left my boy alone in my apartment can he come over too and I'll bring some liquor back, my S.O agrees and he leaves to get his friend. Now, mind you I don't drink or smoke and I'm already feeling a little nervous about this spontaneous gathering but I just continue to sit back with my iPad.
So, the neighbor comes back with his friend and the bottle of liquor to smoke and he tells my S.O to turn on some music while they smoke & stuff, which he does. My S.O then comes over to me with the liquor bottle and tries to give me some to which I reply "You know I don't drink" and laugh it off. So, I'm really just sitting by myself watching my iPad while they're smoking/drinking, having random convos and stuff and I after a while I get up to use the bathroom. When I comeback his neighbor kinda stared at me and me uncomfortable (as I mentioned earlier I have Social Anxiety and am Introverted) so I notice the show I was watching was about to end so I take that as an opportunity to head home since I'm not partaking with them anyways. I let my S.O know that I'm going home to watch my shows and quietly gather up my things.
He walks with me to the door with this bothered look on his face and when I get out in the hall he asks, "How I'm getting home?" so I tell him I'll take either the bus or train whichever comes first since I don't live that far but I needed to check the App first. Then he makes a comment about me embarrassing him because I just got up and was leaving in front of his people with liquor on his breath. I'm confused, so I remind him that I don't hang out with people that I don't know and remind him of my anxiety (that he's obviously aware of). So he kinda starts trying to check me and I stop him in his tracks and tells him to call me once he sobers up cause he's clearly having a lapse of memory at this point and walk off. He catches up to me and grabs onto my arm causing me to get annoyed/irritated so I tell him "Don't touch me" and we have a little argument and he says something about I can't just do him any kind of way and some other BS like that and I call him drunk/high again we go our separate ways.
He tries to call me a couple minutes later but I ignore it and he starts text bombing me. So I just call him and he gets on the phone sounding like he trying to check me again in front of his people so I tell him again to call me when he sobers up and reminds him of my anxiety again and hang up. He texts me some more and he starts saying he's hurt and all this and that and that they were just smoking and his neighbors ended up leaving and he doesn't understand and demands an apology. I keep telling him you know I'm not comfortable around people I don't know and if I get nervous I'll just leave on my own accord. That he knows this about me and I've been consistent over the last 4 years since it's extremely rare and non existent that I willingly do stuff like that especially spontaneous kickbacks like that.
So, am I in the wrong as he feels for just up and leaving like that in front of his people (who I wasn't interacting with anyways) when he known for years about my anxiety issues?