Major insecurity as usual. A person's respective experience would never offend you otherwise.Lmao why are the deep voiced girlies so upset at OP and other soft-spoken black women for telling their stories?
Lmao why are the deep voiced girlies so upset at OP and other soft-spoken black women for telling their stories?
Yep same here but some people say it's because I'm light skinned others say it's because I have a baby face and look like a kid still. I'm going with a baby face and a soft voice makes them see me as childlike or something.I noticed me having a soft, higher voice had some sort of weird effect on (some) people. It would make them more inclined to want to give me things (without me asking or even hinting) or overlook when I was being an asshole. Especially a select few customers at my old job.
It's very hard for me to fully explain, but it was just something I noticed.
I'm sure having a soft voice did not help me with misogynists though. It probably made them more inclined to feel as if they could intimidate or mistreat me since I'm on the smaller side, have a high voice, and some other characteristics that can be interpreted as feminine, childlike, or weak. Fuckers.
I think it's that too. I'm dark skinned so it probably more than likely having a baby face, rather than skin color. I recently had some maintenance guys come into my home for an inspection. When I opened the door they asked where my parents were LMAO!Yep same here but some people say it's because I'm light skinned others say it's because I have a baby face and look like a kid still. I'm going with a baby face and a soft voice makes them see me as childlike or something.
You sound very young. This isn't a bad thing and I hope you know that.
Instead of celebrating your femininity online you should go ahead and take advantage of it in the real world with real people. (Although this is a great step one!)
I swear some young femme BW online act like they're the first pretty feminine black woman to live and get male attention from all races. It actually isn't that uncommon for pretty young BW to have it easy in mixed company. Just go win. You see it's easier and not that bad. Don't overthink it. Sounds like you don't even need a strategy from us. Just decide what you want and get it because you are in a great position. Whether it's a great career or a man or a combo of both (I would suggest the last).
Being feminine and nice and pretty is like playing life on easy mode. I don't understand why people are acting like being considered shy or bougie is even a problem for a young lady. Just go for it and have fun. It's not like you're the first ever to be in this position as a black woman so just enjoy and have fun. There is no need for survivor's guilt. Online on LSA it seems like the "average" BW's experience is getting spit on by everyone. I'm not in a position to invalidate anyone's experiences but I simply cannot relate. It's okay if you can't either and if people are generally nice to you. Just keep living, and build close relationships with people you can trust.
Oh and don't be scared of women. Some women will hate you but some will actively try to befriend you. Literally some women prefer befriending other women who are quiet but cute(so they can shine). Pick the latter, vet out the trash, and you will be doing great. Who the hell wants to hang out with women who hate other women for being pretty and chill?
I'm tired of anti-Black women posts that are othering Black women.
There's nothing special about having a professional inside voice/volume.
Plenty of Black women do and to act like you're some anomaly or special snowflake is to insult the millions of Black women every day who are working, professional and have lots of decorum.
As a matter of fact, it sounds like you're working in $10/hour call centers or Walmart or the Dollar Tree if you think this is sPeCiAl.
Most Black women are not any of these hateful stereotypes and NO ONE under the ages of 70 uses hate speech words like the m work, sapphire and jezebel.
Being socially inept, socially disabled, having poor interpersonal skills, thinking that other Black women who you've never even spoken to, doesn't make you special. It's moreso probably just untreated mental illness, paranoia and extreme anxiety.
Where are you that most Black women are NOT soft spoken?
Dollar Tree?
Burger King?
Someone's food court?
I know plenty of Black women who use appropriate tone and volume in the workplace and there's nothing special about it.
It's just what normal people do.
I can't believe these digital Black people are making this a thing.
And dont be wearing a mask! I feel like I have to holler just to speak lol
People also can't wait to try to disrespect you tooYes I've noticed that too, if you don't fit into the sassy Black woman troupe, not only do people get uneasy they even hate you for it. It's not just non Black people, even other BW do this too. Like even Black people believe in their own stereotypes. Why is it so hard to believe that a BW can be something other than hood, angry, or loud.
I'm so different, I'm not like other Black people Uncle Ruckus head @$$es/Endfuckingthread Lmfao people just want to feel special
I'm so different, I'm not like other Black people Uncle Ruckus head @$$es
I'm a Black woman who doesn't have to attack other Black women to describe myself.You’re really strange.
Having a baby face will garner the same treatment. The good thing is that your youthful look will pay off in the long runI think it's that too. I'm dark skinned so it probably more than likely having a baby face, rather than skin color. I recently had some maintenance guys come into my home for an inspection. When I opened the door they asked where my parents were LMAO!
Delusional/Endfuckingthread Lmfao people just want to feel special
Major insecurity is describe yourself IN COMPARISON TO OTHER PEOPLE AND PUT THEM DOWN!!!Major insecurity as usual. A person's respective experience would never offend you otherwise.
And most loud mfs like you on welfare cuz no real profession putting up with you manners don't equal ****I'm a Black woman who doesn't have to attack other Black women to describe myself.
What's most telling is the pure lack of personal/professional accomplishments or any material or financial gain from all this white acceptance.
I bet not a single one of you nets more than $12000 USD per month.
I always count on you to spit fire and spice up the comments
And you loud heffas will throw hands real quick snake b!tchesYou ever had to walk up on someone and slit their throat?
The element of surprise always helps.
The best assassins are the quiet ones.
Smile in your face and poison your drink...
They won’t look at you as a potential threat. But I honestly just think by knowing you’re better then them, and having a much higher qualifications, it really presses their mental state. Though I hate that it is like this.What you're describing is called condescension. And yup, you'll constantly have to deal with that. First thing I learned working is that white people feel more at ease with the loud, outspoken and fat (no offense) bw than the quiet ones. Don't know why, we don't have the rep of going on shooting sprees.
Don't have a cap rising but I have Saturn in 1st house which is said to be similar. It makes sense why all my serious relationships have been guys older than me (late 20s, 30s).I have similar experiences, and it’s always the older men tryna run game (my Cap rising is so strong, friends and love interests tend to be older than me). I wave it all off but let me catch one that’s fine and looks like money one of these days... a bih might have to bite
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