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I hope this post is anonymous. For context I'm christian and a college student.

I talked to a close friend about my sexuality. It helped me accept the fact that I'm attracted to women.

I tried to tell myself I was bi but it wouldn't be fair to whatever guy I'm dating. I don't like DL behavior. I'm a hypocrite if I date woman which sucks.

I don't feel comfortable telling family until I'm fully financially independent.

Is it bad to want to stay in the closet? Has anyone else had a similar situation?
 

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No, you’re not anonymous.

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you only come out when you're ready and feel 100% comfortable to do so
 

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I don't feel comfortable telling family until I'm fully financially independent.

Is it bad to want to stay in the closet? Has anyone else had a similar situation?

Do you think your family would disown you or kick you out? Are they homophobic?
 

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Being in the closet is your own personal choice (as long as you are not leading someone else on and hurting that person). Do keep in mind though that while it’s your choice, this may not be acceptable to a romantic interest and being out is that person’s choice as well.
 

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Do you think your family would disown you or kick you out? Are they homophobic?

I don't know if they would disown me but they wouldn't be happy.

My mum said she suspected I wasn't attracted to guys a while ago(she changed her mind later) but she didn't show any negative feelings during the time.
 

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You have to do what best for you. If you’re not in a situation where you can be financially stable, then coming out rn probably wouldn’t be the best idea. It doesn’t make you any less proud, open, and comfortable in who you’re. However, you have to do what you have to do to survive.
 

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This was me for a very very long time.
But not being honest about my sexuality was a mental health liability for me.
I just couldn't imagine myself living this one life to please other people who don't live their lives to please me. The level of self rejection and hate that all brought me wasn't anything I want to experience again.
Also, i've always believed that if straight don't have to "come out" then neither do we. Tell who you want, when you want. Its your business.
 

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You're not alone op

We all come out at our own speed, don't do it until you're ready. If that means keeping your orientation on the low until you can be independent, then there's nothing wrong with that. Also, it'll help if you develop a support system of people who know what you're going through. If there's an LGBTQ club on your campus, consider joining it.

If you do decide to date during this time, make sure you're completely honest with your partner about your situation. It's only right to let them know what to expect while being with you. I know that this is a scary time, but you'll be okay :)
 

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I hope this post is anonymous. For context I'm christian and a college student.

I talked to a close friend about my sexuality. It helped me accept the fact that I'm attracted to women.



I tried to tell myself I was bi but it wouldn't be fair to whatever guy I'm dating. I don't like DL behavior. I'm a hypocrite if I date woman which sucks.

I don't feel comfortable telling family until I'm fully financially independent.

Is it bad to want to stay in the closet? Has anyone else had a similar situation?

Nah u do u if that means staying closeted that how you do, no shame
 

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I'll put it like this; if you come out, do so where it is advantageous or not a risk. I'm not out where I don't need to be, like work. Some people don't get down with that DL sh!t, I don't, so pick wisely who you consort with, or they'll put you out.

As far as your parents; most people are only affected by things that hit home.
 

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Coming out is not a requirement. Straight people dont come out either. You have to live your life in a way that You are comfortable with. Just make sure the person you are with knows where you are at with it.
 

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