billetdoux
Pro BW and Girls
If you're not interested in being a divestor, then this thread is not for you.
I have noticed a lot of confusion on social media concerning divestors. Whether it be on Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, or LSA, the real definition of a divestor is being twisted around.
Most "divestors" think divesting is about men, when it's really not. It's about YOU. Centering YOURSELF, improving who YOU are, and protecting YOUR peace of mind.
It's not about whether or not you want to date black men, white men, Asian men, etc. BEING A DIVESTOR HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MEN!
These things can be a magnet for attracting the right men/man for you, but overall that's not what it's about.
This is what being a divestor is really about:
I have noticed a lot of confusion on social media concerning divestors. Whether it be on Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, or LSA, the real definition of a divestor is being twisted around.
Most "divestors" think divesting is about men, when it's really not. It's about YOU. Centering YOURSELF, improving who YOU are, and protecting YOUR peace of mind.
It's not about whether or not you want to date black men, white men, Asian men, etc. BEING A DIVESTOR HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MEN!
These things can be a magnet for attracting the right men/man for you, but overall that's not what it's about.
This is what being a divestor is really about:
- Healing from trauma and uncovering those deep buried internal wounds that you have never recovered from (black women really need to go therapy. It doesn't matter if you think it's bougie or costs too much, you NEED to heal)
- If you don't want to do therapy, do shadow work for a certain amount of days (you pick) so that you can uncover what you're hiding from yourself and others. Watch YouTube videos on doing this
- Recognizing the toxicity within the black community and how stereotypes are being supported by other black women and how you can pull your support from that (Y'all are not ready for that conversation)
- Cutting off toxic relationships with anyone that you know (It's so important to protect your peace and your mental health, so cut them off!)
- Cleansing your spirit by meditating and/or praying, using crystals to help you navigate spirituality
- Taking care of you internal organs by eating healthy
- Pulling your support (your money, your energy, and your time) from people, businesses who do not support you as a black woman
- Really taking the time to know yourself, inside and out. Knowing what you like and don't like, knowing your boundaries/limits when it comes to dating, friendships, etc.
- Being self-accepting once you realize that you cannot change your past decisions and that you can only move forward from where you're at right now
- Taking care of your physical health, by exercising in whatever way that you want to (this is not me being fat-phobic, your health is your wealth!), eating the right foods to give your skin a glow-y look and so you can preserve your youth, getting enough sleep at night (8 to 10 hours) so that you don't wake up feeling groggy, investing in your oral and personal hygiene (because those are the first things people notice about you)
- Elevating your socioeconomic status by networking with high class people and increasing your value/net-worth (this may not be for everyone so do this at your own discretion)
- Learning how to stop fighting EVERYONE'S battles because that energy is hardly ever reciprocated (especially for black women who are constantly being SJWs) BURN THE CAPE AND STOP MULING!
- Not accepting anything less than corrective representation for black women because we deserve nothing but the very best.
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