It sounds like you still haven’t healed yourself fully and now you’re the one being borderline emotionally abusive. That may be a very strong word to express what you’re doing but you get the gist,
Annoyance with anyone is normal. If anything it’s expected after a certain amount of time. Going off is not despite how normalized it is. If you find yourself regularly going off either the issue is you or you’re not compatible with that person. You have to decide which applies to your situation.
The difference I’ve noticed is annoyance with a partner who’s treating me right is fleeting.. very temporary.. annoyance with a partner who’s already treating me in a way I don’t like quickly turns to anger and it lingers.
My man never does annoying sh!t so i dont ever have a reason to ‘go off’. Mature humans discuss their issues rationally without acting like petulant little children.I would say this is probably my first serious relationship. prior to that I have dated men but one situation was so bad it literally took me years to piece myself back together again and even to this day .. even though I have .. there are still broken parts of me as a result of the emotional abuse I was put through. dating men is difficult coz so many have unlikeable character traits .. and I feel like that has put me to a position to where I can't STAND certain behavior in men .. and it makes me go off without even realizing. the man I'm dating and I are still learning each other .. but ive realized I tend to make a big deal and go off on him if he does little things unintentionally like make sarcastic jokes, come across immature etc. I dont want to ruin our relationship before it's even really blossomed and grown but it's like everything annoys me or rather .. I get annoyed easily when I see reminders of behaviors in him that I dealt with in other aint sh!t men before him and it triggers me. I want to calm down and be able to control my emotions to where I dont trip every time something small happens. women in marriages/relationships, how do you deal with the annoying sh*t your man does? how do you keep your emotions in check and what's the best way to address something without it coming across argumentative or confrontational? how do you stay patient when your s/o is coming across annoying .. I hope this makes sense. Thank y'all.
I would say this is probably my first serious relationship. prior to that I have dated men but one situation was so bad it literally took me years to piece myself back together again and even to this day .. even though I have .. there are still broken parts of me as a result of the emotional abuse I was put through. dating men is difficult coz so many have unlikeable character traits .. and I feel like that has put me to a position to where I can't STAND certain behavior in men .. and it makes me go off without even realizing. the man I'm dating and I are still learning each other .. but ive realized I tend to make a big deal and go off on him if he does little things unintentionally like make sarcastic jokes, come across immature etc. I dont want to ruin our relationship before it's even really blossomed and grown but it's like everything annoys me or rather .. I get annoyed easily when I see reminders of behaviors in him that I dealt with in other aint sh!t men before him and it triggers me. I want to calm down and be able to control my emotions to where I dont trip every time something small happens. women in marriages/relationships, how do you deal with the annoying sh*t your man does? how do you keep your emotions in check and what's the best way to address something without it coming across argumentative or confrontational? how do you stay patient when your s/o is coming across annoying .. I hope this makes sense. Thank y'all.
This sounds like a fairly severe problem that doesn't match with the described behavior just being "annoying" or "immature...." Why would you ask for help tolerating mild annoyances? Additionally from what you've written you know the relationship is one foot out the door because you can't keep your behavior in check.
This thread is dishonest and you sound like an unreliable narrator. You may not be lying, you may just be in denial about something. Either way this reads like relevant context is missing and people can't help you solve a problem that sounds outsized from the stated conflict.
I think the use of the word "annoying" is throwing people off. You're saying he does things that remind you of ain't sh!t men... as in, he intentionally tries to hurt you? Or do you mean he wears Affliction tees and acts like a tryhard but is actually a softie? walks with a swagger and acts way more confident/fuckboi-ish when he doesn't know you see?
if something's abusive, you should recognize it. but then I think people in LTRs turn a blind eye to mild/moderate abuse a lot of the time. or if you mean you can't like a man if he chews too loud etc, i've witnessed women be that picky.