BRIAAAA
THE BUCKS WILL PREVAIL. IN MILWAUKEE WE TRUST
*Keep in mind, I know most mother-daughter relationship have struggles. I’m just focusing on those like my own. Black mothers & daughters.
I’m in a place where I simply am not sure if I’d like to continue a relationship with my mother anymore. Then, these posts coincidentally pop up.
Here, Iyanla checks the mother for her attitude towards her children’s decisions/opinions in life. Pretty much tells her, they don’t talk to you because they don’t feel like they can. SAAAAMMME!!!!
Here, there’s a thread of people discussing mothers constant criticism of their daughters. Essentially saying mom is the first bully they’ve ever witnessed.
Just me venting:
My mom is the type to tell you you’re lying/wrong, if you have an opinion that is not hers. She’s the type to scream over you, never let you talk & then think she “won” the argument. She’s the type to never apologize. The type to put more pressure on girls than boys. The type to be physical with her children, when punishing (whoopings, not beatings to be clear). She’s the type to never communicate effectively, so open discussions weren’t a thing in our household.
My sisters and I have always had different responses to my mother attacking us on different things. I’m the oldest (24yo) & the type to scream back or return her attitude.
Sister #1 (21 yo) is the type to withdraw from the conversation when being screamed at. She will literally walk out or hang up. You will not disturb her energy. Smart girl to me. I wish I had the self control. I’ve given my mother too much of my negative energy.
Sister #2 (14yo) is emotional. She’ll be justified in what she’s discussing, but the second someone gets loud and angry, she’s crying & frazzled.
My step-brother pretty much avoids her. He can easily leave and go to his mom’s house, if she’s at him.
The baby sister isn’t there yet. She’s not at the point where she wants to be away from my mother yet. But, she does say, they all run & hide when she comes home. She’s always complaining about something. She’s only 10.
Both of my mother’s grown children, have moved to other cities to escape her. I feel like it’s only a matter of time for the rest.
All I ever wanted was to be spoken to like a human being. But, in many Black households, kids are to be seen & not heard. So having an opinion, “shouldn’t” exist. Communication is key to me and I’m tired of having to yell my point over another person. I’m tired and it’s quite frankly childish.
I’m in a place where I simply am not sure if I’d like to continue a relationship with my mother anymore. Then, these posts coincidentally pop up.
Here, Iyanla checks the mother for her attitude towards her children’s decisions/opinions in life. Pretty much tells her, they don’t talk to you because they don’t feel like they can. SAAAAMMME!!!!
Here, there’s a thread of people discussing mothers constant criticism of their daughters. Essentially saying mom is the first bully they’ve ever witnessed.
Just me venting:
My mom is the type to tell you you’re lying/wrong, if you have an opinion that is not hers. She’s the type to scream over you, never let you talk & then think she “won” the argument. She’s the type to never apologize. The type to put more pressure on girls than boys. The type to be physical with her children, when punishing (whoopings, not beatings to be clear). She’s the type to never communicate effectively, so open discussions weren’t a thing in our household.
My sisters and I have always had different responses to my mother attacking us on different things. I’m the oldest (24yo) & the type to scream back or return her attitude.
Sister #1 (21 yo) is the type to withdraw from the conversation when being screamed at. She will literally walk out or hang up. You will not disturb her energy. Smart girl to me. I wish I had the self control. I’ve given my mother too much of my negative energy.
Sister #2 (14yo) is emotional. She’ll be justified in what she’s discussing, but the second someone gets loud and angry, she’s crying & frazzled.
My step-brother pretty much avoids her. He can easily leave and go to his mom’s house, if she’s at him.
The baby sister isn’t there yet. She’s not at the point where she wants to be away from my mother yet. But, she does say, they all run & hide when she comes home. She’s always complaining about something. She’s only 10.
Both of my mother’s grown children, have moved to other cities to escape her. I feel like it’s only a matter of time for the rest.
All I ever wanted was to be spoken to like a human being. But, in many Black households, kids are to be seen & not heard. So having an opinion, “shouldn’t” exist. Communication is key to me and I’m tired of having to yell my point over another person. I’m tired and it’s quite frankly childish.