scarlettxo
be free crackhead
Hi ladies!
Before I begin I want to share something with you all. I already have a name picked out for my future daughter. For quite some time now even though I'm not anywhere close to married or in a relationship. My mother bought me a christmas gift and ya'll I looked and then looked again. THE BRAND NAME OF THE GIFT MY MOTHER BOUGHT ME IS MY DAUGHTER'S FUTURE NAME! I know that this is a sign from God and not a coincidence.
Anyway I have been doing some heavy thinking. My family for generations has had/have cycles of abuse. Mostly unhealthy relationships between man and woman. I am going to break this cycle. To my family I guess dysfunction is normal and i'm kind of the odd one. I think they think I'm uppity and better than them. No, I'm better than their behavior. I'm determined to break this cycle and to have a healthy and happy family in the future.
Below are a list of things I have learned and will teach my daughter one day. You ladies can share what you teach or will teach or are teaching your daughter or children.
1. Do not make excuses for bad behavior in men
2. Do not EVER let a man hit you, slap you, push you
3. be aware of how your body works don't be afraid to come to me and ask me questions
4. stand up straight and don't be ashamed
5. being confident is not acting "fast"
6. Explore
7. take care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally
8 it's okay to be nice but don't be a pushover and constantly give your time, emotions and energy to people that do not deserve it and this is not being bad or not christian
9. it's okay to not agree with mommy all the time
10. take time out for yourself
11. love yourself first
12. it's okay to not "feel" every single thing. it's hard being black and a woman in this world
13. be proud of your skin and be proud to be black
14. dress nice! show a little shoulder ( when you are at the appropriate age) have your own style
15. do not have serious relationships so young
16 do not give yourself to a man without wanting to with your heart 100%
17. always have protected xes ( unless or until you are in a serious and committed relationship with someone and they respect you and your body)
18 love yourself really really hard. love your flaws, your voice, your thoughts, the kink/ curl/ wave of your hair
19 follow your intuition
20. you are a precious jewel and should never ever hide yourself or under value yourself
That's all i have for now. I'm sorry if this is a bit long. I'm in my emotions right now.
Before I begin I want to share something with you all. I already have a name picked out for my future daughter. For quite some time now even though I'm not anywhere close to married or in a relationship. My mother bought me a christmas gift and ya'll I looked and then looked again. THE BRAND NAME OF THE GIFT MY MOTHER BOUGHT ME IS MY DAUGHTER'S FUTURE NAME! I know that this is a sign from God and not a coincidence.
Anyway I have been doing some heavy thinking. My family for generations has had/have cycles of abuse. Mostly unhealthy relationships between man and woman. I am going to break this cycle. To my family I guess dysfunction is normal and i'm kind of the odd one. I think they think I'm uppity and better than them. No, I'm better than their behavior. I'm determined to break this cycle and to have a healthy and happy family in the future.
Below are a list of things I have learned and will teach my daughter one day. You ladies can share what you teach or will teach or are teaching your daughter or children.
1. Do not make excuses for bad behavior in men
2. Do not EVER let a man hit you, slap you, push you
3. be aware of how your body works don't be afraid to come to me and ask me questions
4. stand up straight and don't be ashamed
5. being confident is not acting "fast"
6. Explore
7. take care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally
8 it's okay to be nice but don't be a pushover and constantly give your time, emotions and energy to people that do not deserve it and this is not being bad or not christian
9. it's okay to not agree with mommy all the time
10. take time out for yourself
11. love yourself first
12. it's okay to not "feel" every single thing. it's hard being black and a woman in this world
13. be proud of your skin and be proud to be black
14. dress nice! show a little shoulder ( when you are at the appropriate age) have your own style
15. do not have serious relationships so young
16 do not give yourself to a man without wanting to with your heart 100%
17. always have protected xes ( unless or until you are in a serious and committed relationship with someone and they respect you and your body)
18 love yourself really really hard. love your flaws, your voice, your thoughts, the kink/ curl/ wave of your hair
19 follow your intuition
20. you are a precious jewel and should never ever hide yourself or under value yourself
That's all i have for now. I'm sorry if this is a bit long. I'm in my emotions right now.