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What do you think about someone complimenting you EVERYTIME they see you??

How do you take constant compliments (from the same person) about your hair, nails, clothes, etc?

  • I don't mind they're just trying to be nice.

  • It creeps me out and makes me wonder why they seem to be watching me.

  • I'm a constant complimenter so...

  • I find it to be disengenious.

  • Never thought about it.


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THE GREAT 1

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Now this is someone of the same xes and no they are not trying to hit on you. I notice the Housewives shows do it all the time. Like they always have to say something about someone's "physical" appearance.
 

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Now this is someone of the same xes and no they are not trying to hit on you. I notice the Housewives shows do it all the time. Like they always have to say something about someone's "physical" appearance.
It comes across disingenuous and phony from a far. It's almost cringe worthy
 

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Hmmm... it doesn't bother me, because it's either true or something I need to hear in the moment. lol

I love hearing my outfit looks good after I had a mental breakdown trying to find something to wear, or that my makeup looks good after I couldn't get my left brow to cooperate, or that I look like I've lost weight when I haven't worked out in weeks and just ate a 3 piece meal from Popeyes.

Hype me tf up!!
 

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I find secure women compliment other women. I was at a bar years ago and saw this sis and told her how fly she looked. Her whole face and attitude changed.
 

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If they’re doing it every time they see you, I’d have to say they admire you. There’s a certain vibe that comes with a backhanded compliment.
 

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I'm not trying to be funny but honestly what does this have to do with Black America?
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Do constant compliments only occur in our culture or?
 

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Some of the things y'all chose to get upset over/take issue with is truly baffling. Take the compliment and keep on keeping on.
 

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Know your worth and accept the compliment, OP. Don't let your inner dialogue make you come up with reasons as to why people are complimenting you, other than the fact that you're worthy of them.
 

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I dont take it in a wrong way, or think they are being disingenuous. I give complements freely as well.
 

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Now this is someone of the same xes and no they are not trying to hit on you. I notice the Housewives shows do it all the time. Like they always have to say something about someone's "physical" appearance.

I do this. I just like hyping women up. I do this to women on the street too lol. I often will comment on an outfit (color, style, etc), a hairstyle, makeup, whatever.

I also know I’m cute so I don’t need or expect any compliments back, but I can always tell when someone is just giving me a compliment only because I gave them one, and you can tell when people are unaccustomed to giving and receiving compliments.

Usually if you’re self-conscious, it’s hard to genuinely give and receive compliments. The more comfortable you are in your skin, the easier it is to give and receive kind words.
 

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Also wanted to add that I do this every day with my daughters, but I don’t necessarily compliment them on physical things. I might say that look really happy, or they did a great job cleaning up, etc. and I notice that they also give compliments to each other, their friends, etc.

We all need people around who can reflect on the things that make us great.
 

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Man, let me go get dressed so I can get my round of compliments for the day. I ain’t gotten enough attention yet LMAOOOOOOO
 

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They’re almost always genuine and not a stitch of jealousy or insecurity in them. They understand that acknowledging another woman’s beauty does not diminish their own.

Now the ones that would rather choke than tell you that your hair/outfit/entire aura is on point? And go out of their way to take you down a peg? Those are the ones you gotta look out for. Their resentment makes it impossible for them to give it to you and they can’t be trusted. The good news is that you know you’re 100% that b!tch either way.
 

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If I like someone, am trying to get to know someone/be on good terms with them, or can tell they put a lot of effort into their appearance then I'll try to compliment them whenever I can. Or sometimes just if I see something that looks really nice/really suits that person. I've told complete strangers that I like their clothes/hair/nails/makeup before lol.

I think you can tell when someone is being fake in their compliment giving, also if someone gives a specific compliment instead of a vague compliment ("the color of that dress looks great on you" vs "your dress is nice") I'm more likely to believe it's genuine. If someone complimented me on something different each time I'd think they were trying to be thoughtful by finding something new to say.

Maybe it depends on your relationship with them though
 

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It depends on what they're saying and how they're saying it.

If someone is telling I'm fine or beautiful or bad af, I'm know I got it like that so I'd expect them to feel that way.

But if they're saying sh!t like, hey girl, bend it over and make it juicy so I can taste it. That's doin to much. LoL
 

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It means they admire you but it can also mean they're being phony. You should be able to tell the difference.
 

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Me and my coworkers gas each other up EVERY MORNING. :arrogant

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Even when they don't look their best "Girl, I see you out here, SHOWERING! Smelling like soap!"

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But if they're saying sh!t like, hey girl, bend it over and make it juicy so I can taste it. That's doin to much. LoL

:surprized Time to tighten up your social circle! Who talking slick to you like this every time they see you?
 

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:surprized Time to tighten up your social circle! Who talking slick to you like this every time they see you?

Exactly and I thought we were talking about compliments from the same xes? This is too much except if you work in a strip club. Then it’s fine.
 

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Acknowledging that someone else put in effort doesn't take anything away from you, and there's something wrong if you see it as an affront.

Genuine, kind, secure people can give or receive compliments easily. They are free to give and receive.
 
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I find secure women compliment other women. I was at a bar years ago and saw this sis and told her how fly she looked. Her whole face and attitude changed.
I love hyping other women up! I love seeing women with full confidence on display and let them know that they are indeed THAT BAD b!tch!!
 

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I have to say that I always feel the need to downplay their compliment although sometimes I am able to just say thank you. I'm working on being able to do the latter a lot more. Although I am very into style and taking care of myself from head to toe and presenting as well put together person that will naturally attract compliments, I don't like to be the center of attention or people fawning over me. It's confusing but I love to look good and really into personal grooming. :emoji_shrug:

I will say I am not a over-complimentary person so if I give you a compliment then I mean it.
 

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:surprized Time to tighten up your social circle! Who talking slick to you like this every time they see you?
Some drunk woman said it to me at a party. She said her n her gf wanna turn me out. She was a butch, had to be in her 40s.
Me n my friends just laughed and kept walking.
 

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Some people just genuinely think you are all that. Even if it's disingenuous, who doesn't like hearing good things about themselves?
 

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I noticed that too on reality shows when they meet up. Like someone else said it doesn't seem genuine.
 

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I think its sweet actually lol compliments always feel better coming from other women. Plus, we should be hyping each other up, especially since we can sometimes forget how great we are and how good we look when the world is constantly creating new ways to make us feel insecure. I’m always hyping other women up so I don’t mind it in return lol
 

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I mean, it takes a whole team to put the Housewives together. Sometimes it’s nice to hear compliments. I wouldn’t be so insecure and miserable to believe every nice thing people say about me is phony. I appreciate them noticing that I have good taste. Sometimes it’s not that deep.
 

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Umm. It’s normal. If you consistently look good and people aren’t haters they’re going to compliment you.

Your friends/family should be complimenting you genuinely and vice versa.

I’m confused. Do people not like compliments?
 

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Maybe they're just trying to be nice? Some of y'all are straight weirdos. I can see why you stay on the internet all the time.
 

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Umm. It’s normal. If you consistently look good and people aren’t haters they’re going to compliment you.

Your friends/family should be complimenting you genuinely and vice versa.

I’m confused. Do people not like compliments?
Not saying people shouldn't compliment you. I stated (or at least I meant to say) the same person compliments you on the same thing every time they see you i.e. "I like those braids'" next time you see them: "you and Monica wear the best looking braids," next time you see them: "those braids look really good on you." I'm not saying different people compliment you, the same person compliments you everytime you see them. A Font said earlier that they may admire you and that sounds logical to me.
 

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