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I just need to confess and vent a little. I'm 19 and I never had this problem until I started college last year at my local community college
If y'all have any advice on preventing anything from happening between you and a taken man please share :glasses-nerdy: I've never been in this situation where one was in my study group at school. Honestly finding out he was married did kinda surprise me since he's young. I met him today and talked 1 on 1 since no one showed up to study. I feel bad now that our conversation didn't stay on the homework. We didn't flirt but talked about where we're from. Is that bad?
Last year I was so physically attracted to a married man who was older and had kids! I did my best not to speak with him in class but he had a friendly personality and I'd just somehow be staring at him in class :bulgy-eyes:
Then the next semester we ended up having the same class. I didn't recognize anyone and was too shy/lazy to make friends and I ended up getting attached like I'd only socialize with him mostly. Thank GOD I haven't seen him since because I was seriously starting to be attracted emotionally. I think once he suggested we exchange contact info for class but I said no since I knew that it would bring me in temptation. Also I never confessed to him that I had found him attractive but I hope he couldn't tell
Then the last example is a cashier at my local grocery store. I can't tell if he's flirting or if it's in my head. I didn't even know that he was married until later! I don't remember ever seeing a wedding ring on his hand either but after I found out I tried to stop saying hello when I saw him outside of the store on his break.
Once as I was walking by he said "How are you" and I said "I'm fine, and you?" (I know I probably should've just said fine and kept walking but I wanted to be polite) To which he replied "I'm doing Good Now!" I just smiled or laughed because of the way he said it as if after seeing/talking to me is what he meant that made him feel good
I kept walking after that and he shouted out "Ooh"
Maybe he's just making me feel better? I think it's obvious that I have some confidence issues but flirting makes me feel wanted but also attracted. Ugh... Well he still works there but I don't say hi as much when I walk by or see him in the store. Sometimes I pretend that I don't see him but I feel bad that I'm purposely avoiding/ignoring him like I'm being rude.
I found a great article today::
http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-xes/articles/1018599/help-im-attracted-to-a-married-man .... I wish I had read this a year ago. The last few points made sense because cutting off contact really does not help
I always keep a distance and try not to get personal but sometimes we'd go off topic and talk about non school related things. I've never gone as far as exchanging numbers or becoming friends. I keep things at the acquaintance level but why do I find it easier to talk to these taken men. It's like once I find out I don't have a chance I let my guard down and we almost always seem to click.
I'm trying to tell myself FLEE FROM TEMPTATION!! He may seem like a great guy but remember he's taken for a reason & GOD has a man for you elsewhere who's available!
The problem is I never seem to find an attractive single man I enjoying talking with on that friendship level. It's always quickly escalated to flirting and talk of a more physical relationship before I get to know him
If y'all have any advice on preventing anything from happening between you and a taken man please share :glasses-nerdy: I've never been in this situation where one was in my study group at school. Honestly finding out he was married did kinda surprise me since he's young. I met him today and talked 1 on 1 since no one showed up to study. I feel bad now that our conversation didn't stay on the homework. We didn't flirt but talked about where we're from. Is that bad?
Last year I was so physically attracted to a married man who was older and had kids! I did my best not to speak with him in class but he had a friendly personality and I'd just somehow be staring at him in class :bulgy-eyes:
Then the next semester we ended up having the same class. I didn't recognize anyone and was too shy/lazy to make friends and I ended up getting attached like I'd only socialize with him mostly. Thank GOD I haven't seen him since because I was seriously starting to be attracted emotionally. I think once he suggested we exchange contact info for class but I said no since I knew that it would bring me in temptation. Also I never confessed to him that I had found him attractive but I hope he couldn't tell
Then the last example is a cashier at my local grocery store. I can't tell if he's flirting or if it's in my head. I didn't even know that he was married until later! I don't remember ever seeing a wedding ring on his hand either but after I found out I tried to stop saying hello when I saw him outside of the store on his break.
Once as I was walking by he said "How are you" and I said "I'm fine, and you?" (I know I probably should've just said fine and kept walking but I wanted to be polite) To which he replied "I'm doing Good Now!" I just smiled or laughed because of the way he said it as if after seeing/talking to me is what he meant that made him feel good
I kept walking after that and he shouted out "Ooh"
Maybe he's just making me feel better? I think it's obvious that I have some confidence issues but flirting makes me feel wanted but also attracted. Ugh... Well he still works there but I don't say hi as much when I walk by or see him in the store. Sometimes I pretend that I don't see him but I feel bad that I'm purposely avoiding/ignoring him like I'm being rude.
I found a great article today::
http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-xes/articles/1018599/help-im-attracted-to-a-married-man .... I wish I had read this a year ago. The last few points made sense because cutting off contact really does not help
I always keep a distance and try not to get personal but sometimes we'd go off topic and talk about non school related things. I've never gone as far as exchanging numbers or becoming friends. I keep things at the acquaintance level but why do I find it easier to talk to these taken men. It's like once I find out I don't have a chance I let my guard down and we almost always seem to click.
I'm trying to tell myself FLEE FROM TEMPTATION!! He may seem like a great guy but remember he's taken for a reason & GOD has a man for you elsewhere who's available!
The problem is I never seem to find an attractive single man I enjoying talking with on that friendship level. It's always quickly escalated to flirting and talk of a more physical relationship before I get to know him