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What's it like living in a multi-generational household?

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I keep hearing that the number of multi-generational households (those with multiple adult generations under one roof) grew during the pandemic.

Sometimes grandparents moved in with their children to help take care of their grandchildren. Other times, children moved their family into their aging parents' home to help take care of them.

If you live in a multi-generational household, what's it like having everyone under one roof?

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My grandparents (mom's side) have always lived with us and practically raised all of us lol.
You learn so much from them....culture, cooking,traditions, basically get to view life from their perspective.
Honestly, most cultures EXPECT Americans have muliti-generational households as a norm. It has so many advantages but can only work if RESPECT/LOVE is shared all around.
 

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My Grandmother owned two houses side by side. We lived in one and my grandparents in the other. We were ALWAYS at her house growing up. She made us breakfast when our parents were at work. If one of my siblings were sick one of my grandparents were always home to care for us so my parents didn’t have to take off. I grew up in a very protective bubble because right around the corner was my paternal grandparents house with several generations under one roof. My grandfather used to walk me to/fro school. I believe growing up like this sparked the endearment I have for elders. This was/is very popular in the south, Spain, Central & South America.

I plan to build a multigenerational home in the next 5 years so my mom and mother-in-law will have a place on our property when the time comes. I envision 2 houses on one lot and the main house with my hubs and I and our youngest. The other house being a duplex or four plex maybe?

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I like this house has separate entrances
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I wish I could relate.
But I can't.

But if I'm fortunate to become a Attempting Grandfather,

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I might come back decades from now and share my perspective.
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It has so many advantages but can only work if RESPECT/LOVE is shared all around.

I believe growing up like this sparked the endearment I have for elders.

This is beautiful. Was it rainbows and unicorns all the time or was there ever conflict? Did your grandparents ever overstep their boundaries or try to flex their position as the senior family member?
 

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This is beautiful. Was it rainbows and unicorns all the time or was there ever conflict? Did your grandparents ever overstep their boundaries or try to flex their position as the senior family member?
Oh yes there was occasional drama between my Grandma and Mother. My mom wasn’t the most patient and when Grandma would check her, her punishment was to forbid me from visiting which devastated me and Gram because we were tight as thieves. That usually only lasted 2-3 days and I’d cry so much she’d give in.
 

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I don't, purely because my mother is severely mentally ill (which turns into abuse during worse phases) and she will make our lives a living hell. I tried in the past and sadly it did not work, but ideally I'd love to - I'd have help, my child would grow up with grandma around, I'd sleep well knowing my ageing parent is looked after at home. It's more comfortable and cheaper than what any nursing home can provide.

When my grandmother's health started really going down we wanted her to move in with us but she refused to leave her home so we used to take turns sleeping over. She was happy with it and it was a good arrangement.
 

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Oh yes there was occasional drama between my Grandma and Mother. My mom wasn’t the most patient and when Grandma would check her, her punishment was to forbid me from visiting which devastated me and Gram because we were tight as thieves. That usually only lasted 2-3 days and I’d cry so much she’d give in.
Grandparents have a reputation for being softies about their grandchildren. I figured at some point the parent would either become jealous (why weren't you softer when parenting me) or resentful (about having their authority undermined).

It's good to hear that any conflict in your household was short lived.
 

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I’ve lived with my grandparents mom aunt and her kids. Benefits are there is always someone to help with younger kids and the communal help for cooking and cleaning. As I got older it got annoying to deal with so many people in one house and limited privacy.
 

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