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Some women really like it. It's how you show you really love a woman. What's wrong with a man wanting you deeply? Is it cuz you're not used to being loved like that?
 

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No it doesn't. Love and possession are two different things. Possession doesn't always means he loves her.
 

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Some men blur the line between possessive and controlling, though. And you can show that you really love a woman by listening to her when she talks, cooking her dinner, rubbing her feet. You don't have to go all caveman and sh!t to show that you're down for her.
 

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Because any guy that believes that train of thought has no idea what love is or how to be a man.
 

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If a man is possessive, he has serious underlying issues that he needs to take care of.
 

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I refuse to date a man who will act like he's my father. GTFOH
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No it doesn't. Love and possession are two different things. Possession doesn't always means he loves her.

Right, in most cases, a possessive man's aim is to exercise his control over a woman and not to express his love for her.

I love a dominant man though.
 

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How are you using the word possessive? (Give examples)

There's no problem with a man wanting a woman deeply, as long as the feeling is mutual, lol.
 

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I like it to an extent if Im really in love with you. The minute you start getting crazy is when we start drawing weapons.
 

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Being possessive and controling is different from wearing the pants in the family. Next topic
 

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theres a thin line between possessive and deranged/crazy

If a man is possessive, he has serious underlying issues that he needs to take care of.

:eyeroll:

It's because possesive men are usually jealous minded and controlling men.

THIS. He wears the pants in the relationship? I can handle that. He tells me what to wear, who to talk to, where to go? Miss me with that.

Well I'm a Scorpio ladies, yall know I'll never act like this.

pinochio.jpg
 

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To the contrary, I know what it means to feel and be loved. In my world, however, ownership and L-O-V-E are not synonyms.
 

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How possessive do u mean....if u mean like "u can't go here, u can't hang out with so and so" etc then yes there is something wrong with that, telling someone else what they can and cannot do, or being envious when she talks to or goes somewhere with somebody else. I don't think u would want someone doing that to u
 

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Nothing I guess. :eyeroll: Maybe he can advise on the perks of being with a possessive man. :sarcastic:

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I absolutely love it. As long as I know that it comes from a place of love and not a desire for ownership and total unhealthy control, I'm good. As long as the man is not CRAZY. It takes a very special kind of man to make me wanna rock the birka. There are some good men who can make you feel so cared for..however, sometimes this can be taken too far.

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Well I'm a Scorpio ladies, yall know I'll never act like this.

pinochio.jpg

And you right to post Pinocchio too! :laugh: I seem to be a Scorpio magnet and y'all are off every chain. You gotta be in good mental and physical shape to deal with those dudes. :laugh:
 

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I see nothing wrong with a man doting on his S.O., but possessiveness combined with the unstable trait could be fatal in the long run. All you have to do is research the many "Fatal Attraction" stories in which have ended tragically. Not that all men who are possessive have resorted to something drastic and all-out batshit psychotic, but personally, I prefer not to take that chance.
 

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There's a big difference between loving/wanting someone and being controlling and insecure.
 

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How possessive do u mean....if u mean like "u can't go here, u can't hang out with so and so" etc then yes there is something wrong with that, telling someone else what they can and cannot do, or being envious when she talks to or goes somewhere with somebody else. I don't think u would want someone doing that to u


All of that would mean he needs to be admitted to a lunatic asylum pronto.
 

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i'm a Scorpio and we're the most xesual out of all the other signs lol just saying
 

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All of that would mean he needs to be admitted to a lunatic asylum pronto.
True but a lot of guys do that and think it's normal or OK but it is really crazy to try to control another person like that smh lol
 

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because if i break up with a guy i don't want to have to move states to get away from his crazy ass lol
 

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I don't need a man to tell me how to wear my hair and forcing me to wear outfits he likes only...someone can truly get hurt, he's insecure and crazy.

controlling my every move and reporting in like he is my ruler and god.
 
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i'm a Scorpio and we're the most xesual out of all the other signs lol just saying

But can you put it down?

A lot of folks call themselves the "most xesual", but yet, can't put it down at all.....

Scorpio or no Scorpio....
 

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