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When men ask what you bring to the table... What does it mean? How would you respond?

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Kindly advise him that you ARE the table, then proceed to leave his pathetic behind in the dust because clearly he doesn't get it and can bring nothing to you but a headache and struggle (and dust).
 

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That’s what it means OP.
It means, they need you to help, IJS...

When a person is straight, they appreciate your company. When a person is struggling, they need you to contribute, LOL
 

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Thankfully no man has ever asked me that. I wish a man WOULD. I don’t pursue, so I would say “what do YOU bring to the table!? You asked for MY number/time. I’m not auditioning for you!” He’d get cancelled.
 
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It's such a knuckle headed question to ask. It's like they don't realize we're not sitting in our parent's home with no education or job until a man comes and saves us. I've only encountered this question on LSA thankfully.
 

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A person recently spoke of telling his significant other this.....only cause he works two good jobs,remodels the house,washes,cleans up......she works as well but....he said U have to bring the sh!t up,for them to understand. This couldn't be me.....i feel kinda bad for her to be dealing with his perfectionist ASS.....
 

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Well yea. I think everyone should ask what their potential partner is bringing to the table. My son shouldn't be with a woman that only has looks, her body, and a hand out all the time and my daughter shouldn't be with a man like that.
 

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i always thought it mean what were their positive redeeming qualities....doesnt have to be monetary....lol
 
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What type of men y’all be around? Any time a man asks that, it usually means what are your qualities and what do you bring to the table in potential. If he wanted to know where you worked, he’d just ask where do you work. Assuming all of you are over 22, most men with a brain knows you have a job and has a means to support yourself.
 

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Look a ***** dead in his eyes with the most serious face and say “nothing”......Works like a charm.

Thankfully, I have never had someone asked me that question. But, that's a great answer, if I ever have to answer that question one day, I plan to use your answer!
 

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A person recently spoke of telling his significant other this.....only cause he works two good jobs,remodels the house,washes,cleans up......she works as well but....he said U have to bring the sh!t up,for them to understand. This couldn't be me.....i feel kinda bad for her to be dealing with his perfectionist ASS.....

It's time for them to part company.
 

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What type of men y’all be around? Any time a man asks that, it usually means what are your qualities and what do you bring to the table in potential. If he wanted to know where you worked, he’d just ask where do you work. Assuming all of you are over 22, most men with a brain knows you have a job and has a means to support yourself.

He should be able to figure all of those qualities out in conversation, that's the whole point of getting to know one another. Asking like that is awkward and comes off like it's a job interview; it's simply uncouth. The men I'm around still have social skills so no asking like that is not a thing.
 

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Are they asking you for a dowry?

dow·ry
ˈdou(ə)rē/
noun
  1. property or money brought by a bride to her husband on their marriage.
    synonyms: marriage settlement, (marriage) portion;
    archaicdot
    "Belinda's dowry included an acre of fertile pasture and two young mules"
Dowry - Wikipedia
Dowry - Wikipedia
A dowry is a transfer of parental property, gifts or money at the marriage of a daughter. Dowrycontrasts with the related concepts of bride price and dower.
Dowry system in India · ‎Bride price · ‎Dower · ‎Bride service
 

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He should be able to figure all of those qualities out in conversation, that's the whole point of getting to know one another. Asking like that is awkward and comes off like it's a job interview, it's uncouth. The men I'm around still have social skills so no asking like that is not a thing.
is it appropriate for women to ask men that question?
 

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He figure all of those qualities out in conversation, that's the whole point of getting to know one another, asking like it's a job interview is uncouth at best. The men I'm around still have social skills so no asking like that is not a thing.
Just like he’ll figure out if you splitting 50/50 on the rent in the conversation. You usually are able to spot a “low self esteem/do anything for a man” kind of woman from a million miles away. They make it obvious. Any variation of “what do you bring to the table” isn’t immediately asking about your financial situation cause A real “ain’t sh!t” man who’s on the prowl could figure that out by simply asking where you work and what do you look for in a man. These women just come across some bum asses who don’t even try to hide their intentions if they are probing about what you have in the bank during a date.
 

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Him: What do you bring to the table?

Me: Why? Do you need help? (With a stank face)

Leave his ass feeling dumb and dusty.
 

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i agree its something that should be able to be learned from getting to know someone and really is only a rhetorical question if actually asked....

but if its inappropriate for a man to ask this question of a woman, is it also inappropriate for a woman to ask of a man?
 
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If you ever hear those magical words immediately proceed to the nearest exit.

This question confuses me, like is it a date or job interview.
 

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I'd say far more than you.

I do ask myself this question though at times, just to make sure I stay aware I'm a catch and that they need to bring the same or more
 

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Although I've heard of it being asked, no one has ever asked me that. Ever. Those words alone would have me not interested.

Possible answer: I'm not interested in setting tables because I expect the help to do that. Are you bringing the help?
 

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i agree its something that should be able to be learned from getting to know someone and really is only a rhetorical question if actually asked....

but if its inappropriate for a man to ask this question of a woman, is it also inappropriate for a woman to ask of a man?

If this is a legit question, MY answer is yes. It’s tacky and offensive for anyone to ask anyone else what they will be bringing of benefit or value to the relationship.

You figure that out on your own because you likely wont be getting a comprehensive and genuine answer. That’s my opinion anyways.

ETA - It’s like youre asking someone to sell or prove themselves and their worth to you.
 
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