PhatzMalone
The Infamous One
I think the men who say that are the men whose preference is for thinner women. I think a man's perspective is different when he truly prefers and respects larger women.
I say this having been on both sides of the weight spectrum. The men who were attracted to me when I was larger cared more about who I was as a human being, wanted to build with me and get to know me. The men who are attracted to me now care more about a trophy, are more concerned with how their choice in a mate reflects on them and are generally less substantive.
I've heard this from other women who've lost a lot of weight also.
My mother was heavier and once she dropped 40 lbs, she experienced the same shift in "eligible" bachelors while dating. There are just some men who ain't sh!t period. They will date women heavier/thinner with low self-esteem, because they can get over. True love isn't about appearances, but people in this world grow more shallow by the day. I've dated taller men, shorter men, heavier men, and thin ones. My "type" is the man who knows the true definition of love/respect. Oh...and he must know Jesus.