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those salt life stickers on the back of cars written in sarif typeface when i read them quickly it always looks like slut life to me.Hoe is life!
those salt life stickers on the back of cars written in sarif typeface when i read them quickly it always looks like slut life to me.Hoe is life!
I’m a black African woman but I understand the struggle.In my country, marriage is still something that most men want but the numbers of men that really don’t give a F about it or that are really holding out for finding their ideal woman and not settling...The numbers of African men in my city(which is the capital and has the most foreigners and men that have travelled,etc) that are impregnating their girlfriends but never marrying them, is increasing.The number of women in long ass term relationships is increasing.As much as we still uphold marriage, lots of modern men that have travelled, know more about life, are really either waiting to marry that ideal girl of their dreams or really not giving an F anymore.The truth is there are no guarantees in life. You can date for marriage and still come up short. I think plenty of women are dating for marriage but unfortunately, in the black community, our male counterparts are taught to do the opposite. It’s hard to find a husband when your male counterparts aren’t even on the same page let alone reading from the same book.
What's wrong with still dating in your 30s? I'm not asking to argue, genuinely want to know your perspective/reasoning behind this.I agree, honestly I was a late bloomer, I had a boyfriend from 14-17. Then, I stopped dating to get myself together and didn’t start back until 24. During that time, I dated around, got bored easily. My exes would always mention marrying me, both would constantly bring up marriage. One was going to buy a ring but we broke up. I got in my first serious relationship last year at 29. My boyfriend is serious about marriage, he’s 3 years older than me and he’s marriage minded. You’re right, we don’t have time. I wasted 2 1/2 years on one guy, never again. I was not going to enter my 30s still dating.
It is never too late to get married you sound like a male mgtowToo many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.
The truth is there are no guarantees in life. You can date for marriage and still come up short. I think plenty of women are dating for marriage but unfortunately, in the black community, our male counterparts are taught to do the opposite. It’s hard to find a husband when your male counterparts aren’t even on the same page let alone reading from the same book.
Bw measure everything by waiting for their “perfect” black kang. DATE OUT YOUR RACE. STAY CHILDESS, MARRY MEN FOR FINANCIAL STABILITY.BW wait too late. They are almost exclusively into hypergamy. They measure EVERYTHING by money. Plus BM know BW think nothing about giving their body for money.
That means a BW cannot discern.
BW wait too late. They are almost exclusively into hypergamy. They measure EVERYTHING by money. Plus BM know BW think nothing about giving their body for money.
That means a BW cannot discern.
We are not like the rest. We came up with a different level of family and community commitment because we were always facing racism, Jim Crow and segregation while at the same time trying to recover from slavery.All women measure everything by money and are told to get men who provide whilst having your own in case he can’t and leaving if he doesn’t have the fortitude to sustain. Why black women are the only group to be looked down on for this I’ll never understand.
!!!!!Date only the marrying kindThe reason why men marry some women and not others
Ever wonder why some relationships just work and others don't? Author John Molloy breaks down the reasons.www.today.com
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.
Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind
Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.
The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.
For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.
After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.
Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.
Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.
Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.
Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.
Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.
Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.
Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.
If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.
If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
Nothing wrong with dating in your 30s, I didn’t want that for myself, I want to be married and have kids by the time I’m 32. I just turned 30 and I’m currently in a serious relationship. We’ve already discussed marriage, hell he brought up getting a marriage license recently. If a woman, wants kids before I certain age, then, it’s not wise to waste years. I’m sure most women would prefer to have kids before 35.What's wrong with still dating in your 30s? I'm not asking to argue, genuinely want to know your perspective/reasoning behind this.
That’s exactly where they are. They don’t love the BM and they don’t respect the BM. They worship money and secondly outstanding “natural” xes partners. They want xes and they will sell themselves for xes. Both are toxic outside of a loving committed relationship.Bw measure everything by waiting for their “perfect” black kang. DATE OUT YOUR RACE. STAY CHILDESS, MARRY MEN FOR FINANCIAL STABILITY.
100% true. I’d also add that women who want to marry young should strongly consider the “nerdy” guys who we often overlook in college as they are best to date in college and marry immediately after college. Once they’re out and hit cities like Atlanta w their well paying nerd jobs, they get a little culture and are introduced to that world as a single man, it’s over! They get their dream car, teeth fixed, pick up a little weight and the college girl whom dissed him is trying to circle back and it’s too late.Date only the marrying kindThe reason why men marry some women and not others
Ever wonder why some relationships just work and others don't? Author John Molloy breaks down the reasons.www.today.com
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.
Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind
Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.
The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.
For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.
After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.
Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.
Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.
Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.
Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.
Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.
Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.
Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.
If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.
If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
Oh okay, thank you for clarifying!!!!!!
Nothing wrong with dating in your 30s, I didn’t want that for myself, I want to be married and have kids by the time I’m 32. I just turned 30 and I’m currently in a serious relationship. We’ve already discussed marriage, hell he brought up getting a marriage license recently. If a woman, wants kids before I certain age, then, it’s not wise to waste years. I’m sure most women would prefer to have kids before 35.
but honestly, if a woman wants marriage and kids she needs to date seriously before 30, I say 25.
Y’all don’t deserve respect or love. #FINDATHERAPIST go to your local psychiatrist for treatment. Black women are not your saviors.That’s exactly where they are. They don’t love the BM and they don’t respect the BM. They worship money and secondly outstanding “natural” xes partners. They want xes and they will sell themselves for xes. Both are toxic outside of a loving committed relationship.
How long after you met your husband did y'all get married?I date aggressively and feverishly for about 6/7 years without any xes until I accidentally met my husband. Date multiple men and decline long-term relationships. No benefits for men who are not your husbands and only marriage should be a commitment.
Your post is an excellent read. I am a BM, a husband, a father and a mentor of BM. So many complexities in this. Plus you have to contextualize for the impact of slavery, racism, the recovery as former slaves, the loss of much of BM and BW spirituality, morality and family oriented life.I’m a black African woman but I understand the struggle.In my country, marriage is still something that most men want but the numbers of men that really don’t give a F about it or that are really holding out for finding their ideal woman and not settling...The numbers of African men in my city(which is the capital and has the most foreigners and men that have travelled,etc) that are impregnating their girlfriends but never marrying them, is increasing.The number of women in long ass term relationships is increasing.As much as we still uphold marriage, lots of modern men that have travelled, know more about life, are really either waiting to marry that ideal girl of their dreams or really not giving an F anymore.
I agree with some fonts whenComes to have a set intention and discarding any men that want to waist your time but As you have said, nothing is set in stone.
I believe that most black women are delusional too and lie to themselves.You Will have women on the shade room or even on here, shaming marriage and upholding the baby momma culture.They will say that marriage is overrated and not for every one but will have a child with some guy.And, will then be jealous of other races when the same women are raised to expect marriage above all?’ You can’t have the same argument when in the end, you guys spread the same message and black men love it.Now,you will see the same black men marrying with no pressure, another race like Jeanne Mai and wonder why...Her husband knew that he couldn’t play the games that he played with his exes(black exes at that).
Black women are too accepting and understanding.And engagement isn’t a wedding and when it happens,you have to have a set date to get married.Many black women act like an engagement ring, it’s a green light to commitment.They believe that a fiancée is a husband and will give him everything and live together.Other races actually DO get married after they get proposed.
Fonts have a bunch of rules but forget that, lots of people that are marrinow, things happened in a very natural and organic way...it was kind of meant to be.
You also don’t have many rules.You have women that started off was friends with benefits or had xes with their current husbands on the first date and are married.So the idea that xes go against marriage, it’s a lie.
You have women that approached their husbands and it’s a conversation that LSA doesn’t want to talk about...lots of women waist time, sitting pretty and never developing social interaction skills.
You have some women that were the proper girlfriend, the girl next door and still got played and the man went for a not so conventional girl.Then, you have the same type of women that found the right guy and waited to have xes after marriage and are doing well.
You have women that will go on tons of dates to find a husband and will look back at 40 years old and realize that she had tons of boyfriend but none stuck it out for long.
You have women that married their first boyfriends and nothing more.
There are no rules and in the end, the advice is good in order to weed out the “waist your time” type of men but in the end, it is what it is.Thing Will happen the way that they have to.
We have to realize that lots of people will not have the “perfect family “ type of scenario.A lovely husband, the cute wife and the perfect behaved kids that live in a gated community.Lots of women will have kids without marriage, others will get divorced, others will never have kids or marriage, others will get married but never have kids, others will get the whole package but have a sh!tty marriage,etc.In the end, you get tired and just want to live life.
I agree with the overall message about really knowing what you want and put your foot down.Learning to select the right guy that will fulfill your needs and desires.And, above all, never try to force something with the wrong one.Because, as much as things are never black or white(specially in relationships), men know what and who they truly want.If a man wants to marry you, he will do it(it doesn’t matter if he is going to be a sh!tty husband or you will have a sh!tty marriage) but if the wants it, he will do it.
Also, never put pressure on a man to marry you because you don’t want to be a “might as well” wife.You don’t want to have kids to pressure him into marrying you, to have millions sit downs with him in order to get him to set a date for the wedding or to even propose.If he truly wants, after a certain age, your man will be the one pushing the idea and intentions forward.You don’t want to have a man marrying you out of pity.You will get cheated on, be by yourself most of the time, feel lonely in the relationship and you will not even be able to ask for love or things out of him because you know that you can’t because he doesn’t give a F about you.
Sorry for any misspellings.I’m in a hurry.
This is why nothing, absolutely nothing will get better. You see yourselves ONLY as victims, not knowing you are a big part of the problem too.Y’all don’t deserve respect or love. #FINDATHERAPIST go to your local psychiatrist for treatment. Black women are not your saviors.
It’s not that I didn’t know you hate BM. And it’s not that I didn’t know you love Yt men. What I did not know is that a lot of BW are not truly black. Many BW, not all of course, have been programmed out of blackness to think they are so so much better than the Blackman. Remember we came out of you. So if you hate us this hard then that means on a subconscious level you hate yourself too.
You constantly compare or evaluate BM and WM outside the context of slavery, racism and segregation. You don’t even have a measuring stick to understand the concerns and problems. Nobody ever fixes somebody or somebodies, the idea is to reflect within the context of reality. Something many BW do not have the awareness to do.You're projecting as per usual
Just because this is black male go to behaviour doesn't mean bw operate like yall
All the BM here share the same 3 ideas, just because I can see that bm are mostly garbage doesn't mean I love wm. Thats BM thinking you hate yourselves and worship whiteness on ww. Whereas many women know all men are toxic. The rest soon find out for themselves, WM are just better at many things than bm, that's just facts no point crying about it, better off understanding why so yall can fix the problem... but that's not your style
Just stay out of BWs business when we attempt to fix ourselves
less than a yearHow long after you met your husband did y'all get married?
As another font schooled me=with the new system= just put them on double ignore (I think its a default feature) and experience a different LSAThis is how I know you're here to exercise your male lust to sh!t on women women...thats the reason 99% of the 'straight' bm are here. Yall get fµcked in the ass ten ways from Sunday by Chad and Bob every day so you have to find some women to put down daily to stop yourselves imploding and to feel some kind of twisted dominance that Bob won't let you enjoy in peace. BM behaviour 101
If you didn't have said problem atypical of the Conquered Ones you would clearly see the comments address men AND women throughout this thread. No women here are being unaccountable, you're just addicted to spewing sh!t at women each day. BM are nasty little gremlins with a big chip on their shoulders heading to the wrong address
I don't want to talk to you any more. Don't tag me again
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South Asians have a whole network of sons groomed for marriage by 25, they'll even have the money to pay for the wedding and arrange the link up
Imagine not having to worry or think about which pool of bachelors you're gonna pick from when they are prepped from birth all the girls have to do is conform to patriarchy...which we're doing anyway but as bw are not benefiting sh!t from
Middle class Whites push their daughters to find a decent prospect in college and push their sons to take full advantage of their white privilege so by time theyre 29 they have the finances and trajectory to support a family. Whenever I work around this group there are constant engagements, weddings or the majority are already married. A single middle class white male in his 30s is rare, if he has a decent job and a girlfriend and is 29+ he's proposing!
Point being these groups of men factor in marriage as part the progression of adulthood not some dirty word they run from and are utterly disgusted by like bm do, yes I acknowledge not every marriage is successful but at least their is a concept of it in the first place
Our female elders didn't give us tea on the state of our communities as a bw dealing with bm who are against marriage and raising their children , we don't have a network of sons groomed for marriage at 25, or a batch of middle class stable men who have enough resources to not hate providing and our male elders either weren't there, or were busy telling us the wrong thing instead of being real because they were doing all that sh!t themselves and couldn't admit bm ain't sh!t