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I was texting one a good friend of mine. We were having a serious conversation. I said something and then she tells me that she's at an engagement party and that she thought we were wrapping up our conversation. She has never been short with me, or impersonal but now that we are going through something she's acting different. I text my other friend who she's also friends with. She said that she's is currently chatting up a storm that they have with some other friends in the group text.

I'm not even mad that she didn't want to talk to me, but why couldn't she just be honest instead of acting like she's too busy to speak when we were clearly having an important conversation.

Why can't people be honest for once? It's upsetting.
 

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Maybe she didn't want to hurt your feelings. Those kind of lies I can deal with. But the, "No baby, I'm not cheating on you" lies are the ones that bother me the most.
 

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It's not when you really care about someone.
 

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She ain't your friend. And I'm being honest

Its sad, but probably true. This is why I never let this chick in, but she insisted. honestly, loosing friends just hurts. she really tried hard to make our friendship work and then she told my other friend that she was tired of trying and inviting me out. i was just busy and wish she'd understand.
 

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No offense, but maybe the topic you two were talking about was boring her? Or it was something she really didn't want to talk about?

Sometimes a little white lie is more "polite".
 

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I think she was trying to prevent your feelings from getting hurt. That sort of lie, though not necessary in this scenario, isn't such a horrible thing I think.
 

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i say this everyday. some men are habitual liars that cant live a day without some sort of secrets & lies. my ex for one lol
 

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Wait...she was in a public place? If its a serious convo...why couldn't you wait until she was home
 

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I think she was trying to prevent your feelings from getting hurt. That sort of lie, though not necessary in this scenario, isn't such a horrible thing I think.

my mom always says that. i value honesty.
 

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Wait...she was in a public place? If its a serious convo...why couldn't you wait until she was home

we were texting one another. it wasn't very serious, but we were telling eachother we really need to talk it out.
 

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No matter how "boring" my friend is being or how much of a downer she sounds like, I'll never cut her off. I'll hear her out all the way through if I have the time. If I don't, I'll let her know that I will be calling/texting her back later to continue the convo. It sounds like your friend had the time but just didn't want to hear it, which isn't cool at all. I would question your friendship if I were you.
 

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Girl, it was a white lie. Some things you need to get over, this would be one of them.

AND NOBODY HERE EVER READS THE OP. jfc.
 

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No matter how "boring" my friend is being or how much of a downer she sounds like, I'll never cut her off. I'll hear her out all the way through if I have the time. If I don't, I'll let her know that I will be calling/texting her back later to continue the convo. It sounds like your friend had the time but just didn't want to hear it, which isn't cool at all. I would question your friendship if I were you.

i am, thanks. this is the first time she's ever done this to me, so yes, i was taken aback.
 

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That's kind of fµcked up if you were really having a serious convo...
 

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She doesn't want to be friends with you anymore and could care less about what you have to say or what's going in your life. Matter fact she probably thought you should be grateful she's showing you any attention at all. If you didn't do anything to hurt your friendship to deserve this unwarranted behavior then just quit the friendship and keep moving. If you did then apologies and hope for the best.
 

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Don't worry about it. Life goes on. Happy Easter. Enjoy your day. Focus on the ones who DO love you. Show no emotion (except love). Divert your attention. Feel no pain. Be happy.
 

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Maybe she didn't want to text out a serious conversation. It might be best to have the conversation over the phone or face to face; things can be misread in text. Have you spoken to her since?
 

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I was texting one a good friend of mine. We were having a serious conversation. I said something and then she tells me that she's at an engagement party and that she thought we were wrapping up our conversation. She has never been short with me, or impersonal but now that we are going through something she's acting different. I text my other friend who she's also friends with. She said that she's is currently chatting up a storm that they have with some other friends in the group text.

I'm not even mad that she didn't want to talk to me, but why couldn't she just be honest instead of acting like she's too busy to speak when we were clearly having an important conversation.

Why can't people be honest for once? It's upsetting.


They don't have the balls to be. They fear drama, or hurting someone's feelings, or being disliked.

I can't stand it either.
 

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