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On Wednesday, a Manhattan school secretary was shot to death by her former lover, a man she met online. For months before her death, 56-year-old Elizabeth Lee-Herman was allegedly stalked by Vincent Verdi, 62. The divorced mother of two even had a restraining order against him, according to CBS2.

Verdi approached Lee-Herman at 8 a.m. while she was parking her Citi Bike in Manhattan, right across from her workplace: the Grace Church School. He allegedly shot her in the stomach, according to New York Daily News. Then, he attempted to kill himself. Lee-Herman later died at a nearby hospital.

The two met on Match.com about a year ago. She and Verdi dated and broke up in July. After the breakup, Verdi allegedly stalked the secretary for months at both her home and her workplace. He even allegedly followed her while she was out on other dates. In October, he was arrested for stalking and Lee-Herman got a restraining order on her ex.

“It was a very difficult morning for the kids, several of them including me, were out here when it happened,” School Head, George Davison told CBS2.

Friend Genevieve McCarthy called her an angel.

“He would be calling her all the time, and she said, ‘you have to stop calling me,” she said.

Colbert Watson, 48, a security guard who worked nearby saw the aftermath of the shooting.

“I see the feet go up in the air and the person drop on their back,” he said.“I saw the guy go over, like he’s trying to kick [Lee-Herman’s] foot — to like make sure [she’s] dead.”

Woman Fatally Shot By Ex-Boyfriend She Met On Dating Site
 

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I know they needed clicks, but the match.com focus is irrelevant. Doesn't matter where she met him. Women are murdered by their partners and ex-partners every day.

Men are trash and can become very dangerous when you leave.
 

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Damn even the old people ain't safe dating. That piece of paper sure as hell didn't stop him from killing her now did it?! This why you need weapons when dealing with crazy. She didn't have anyone to drop her off @ her workplace to make sure she got in and left safely? Where was this lady's family? Now she dead cause she dated a lunatic. Everybody should learn the art of ghosting and changing phone numbers (and addresses).
 

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Damn even the old people ain't safe dating. That piece of paper sure as hell didn't stop him from killing her now did it?! This why you need weapons when dealing with crazy. She didn't have anyone to drop her off @ her workplace to make sure she got in and left safely? Where was this lady's family? Now she dead cause she dated a lunatic. Everybody should learn the art of ghosting and changing phone numbers (and addresses).

You never know how far people will take things smh
 

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This is sad but the focus shouldn’t be that she met him online. The issue is he repeatedly stalked and hunted her down.

People really need to start taking dating violence seriously.
 

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You never know how far people will take things smh
Right.

You break up with a man so now you have to enter witness protection just to survive? Your whole family has to escort you to and from work now?

We really coddle the fµck out of trash men.
 

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Leaving violent relationships are very dangerous for women. And police don’t take these threats seriously!
 

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Right.

You break up with a man so now you have to enter witness protection just to survive? Your whole family has to escort you to and from work now?

We really coddle the fµck out of trash men.

It's scary out here. People will snap, removing yourself won't save you. I know I can do bad by myself, I don't need to add some psycho into my life. Stay safe!
 

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Ladies. Get a restraining order. Create a paper trail by reporting EVERYTHING and if/when neccesary neutralize all threats. Do not live your life looking over your shoulder. Do not wait until it's to late. Stay aware and neutralize effectively.....leave no room for second chances.
 
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I’ve read that most women are killed AFTER they get a restraining order. I’m not sure if it’s true, but in the book it stated that it’s an ego thing. You get papers on me, now I have to show you who’s really boss. It’s sad and it happens every day. RIP to her.
 

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I tell people all the time that orders of protection/restraining orders ain't nothing but pieces of paper. It's good to have one on file, but don't depend on it to keep you safe. Ladies, be vigilant.
 

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Ladies. Get a restraining order. Create a paper trail by reporting EVERYTHING and if/when neccesary neutralize all threats. Do not live your life looking over your shoulder. Do not wait until it's to late. Stay aware and neutralize effectively.....leave no room for second chances.

she did and she still died. There isn't anything that you can really do to prevent this. If you date men, you run the risk of encountering stalking or other forms of violence. That's not going to change until men realize that this is a problem and start checking other men and these cases actually start being taken seriously and offenders face real repercussions.
 

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she did and she still died. There isn't anything that you can really do to prevent this. If you date men, you run the risk of encountering stalking or other forms of violence. That's not going to change until men realize that this is a problem and start checking other men and these cases actually start being taken seriously and offenders face real repercussions.
No she only got a restraining order. You need to reread my post. I said neutralize the threat. Once she realized he was following her she should have taken care of the issue.

The restraining order and subsequent reports cover you LEGALLY once you lay down your burden.
 

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^^^^
Tell this to all the women in prison for fighting back.

Real life is not a clean cut Law & Order SVU episode. The laws vary in different states and restraining order or not, you may still very well find yourself spending over a decade behind bars, even if you claim self defense.
 

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Tell this to all the women in prison for fighting back.

Real life is not a clean cut Law & Order SVU episode. The laws vary in different states and restraining order or not, you may still very well find yourself spending over a decade behind bars, even if you claim self defense.
So...... Even given your scenario.....if your in prison wouldnt that mean your still ALIVE???

And if you lay down the legal foundation you will be fine. And that should be a risk your willing to take when your life depends on it. Prison or grave?
 

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If he had a restraining order how was he able to get a gun? They need to CLOSE the boyfriend loophole in domestic violence cases - this could have been prevented.
 

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