So, I've been a bartender for 14 years and in the last 4-5 I've noticed more and more women paying for the drinks. I'm not talking about a woman sending a drink over to a man she's trying to get to know, but a woman picking up the tab at the end of the night for the man (or party) that she came in with it. I work at a ML Football stadium and I had a friend come in on her bday with her boyfriend and her brother and she paid for the drinks to celebrate. Doubles for all of them. The next week she paid, and he pulled out his card to pay for just his second shot. And while they could have an agreement that he pays for everything but drinks at the football games, I don't think I'm that progressive that I'm going to be picking up the tab all the time. Also, I bartended a Halloween party and at least 3 women (one Hispanic and two white) were the ones who gave their card to run and pay for a logn tab at the end of the night. Is this the new normal?
She must make way more money than he does, or she is putting a down payment on the D. I hope he had enough self respect to get to know her before he gives it up.
Couldn't be me. But more power to you ladies who do. I never need to take my purse out with the men I'm around. However, there are some men out there that would talk your mouth dry without offering you a sip.
Eww gross Have some females no shame ? The new normal needs to be these bytches gettin their shit together Forreal
The only time I've purchased a drink for a guy is if we were dating. Other than that, no. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that, I just haven't done it yet. And as crazy as it sounds, I don't like accepting drinks from guys that I have or would have no interest in. It just puts me in an awkward situation. I don't want to feel like I need to sit there and talk to you.
Never done it before. I always get offered drinks. i would buy my boyfriend drinks, but some random guy or guy friends...nah.
Def not the new normal in these parts lol that's ridiculous . The closest I came in purchasing a drink for a guy is when my guys gives me the money or his card and I for it to the waiter lol
Well the Hispanic chick at the Halloween party and the white guy seemed to have been together a while because they were talking to me about drinks they had on a cruise the year before. They were young and maybe it was an off pay-week for him. LOL I dunno. As for my friend, I was kind of shocked when she whipped out her card on her birthday. And even more so when she paid for a drink and he whipped out his card cuz he wanted a double. Maybe he paid for the season tickets
I pay for drinks some rare times when am out with my friends. I don't have too and it wouldn't bother them if I didn't but I would bother me. We all have about "the same amount of money coming in every month" so I don't see why I should let them pay all the time.
Well, it could be that the guy had given her money, and she used that to pay for the drinks? *crosses fingers and hopes* That's what I need to believe because it could not be me. I was raised in the Dirty as somewhat of a Southern belle, and with the expectations that come with it. Now I'm pretty independent, and don't need a guy for shit, but hell would freeze before I'd pay for a dude's drink, unless he was one of my queen friends, OR we were already in a serious relationship and shared our his funds. But on a date? No ma'am. :no:
This COULDN'T be me. If a guy doesn't pick up the tab or buy me the drink then he isn't a guy I would like to go for, at all. A guy should offer to buy drinks or pick up the tab because that's chivalry. It's tradition... it's against nature for women to buy men drinks :dunno:
A woman once told me she got her husband bc she brought stuff to the table. When they first met he bought her a drink and she returned the favor. I told the woman, that is not hapening, period...first a drink then the negro will be asking for bills to be paid, no ma'am. Fast forward 6 years, this bish was having an affair with a woman and left her husband...he was a very good man,too! Here in the midwest these heifers pay like they weigh. Any half way decent looking black man will be 100% supported by these farmer girls and daddy's money. I witnessed this fuckery so much, it makes me want to find some bm that are down on their luck and place them with these thirsty chicks, for a fee of course.
I've paid for drinks before with dinner. actually I had intentions to pay for the whole outting. had other stuff planned. yea totally didn't happen. he paid for everything else. I tried though lol
I have a friend, who is a single other with two kids and a deadbeat baby daddy, who was planning to take her boyfriend to Vegas and give him $1,000 for his bday. I was like no way in hell. When I worked in an African club, I never saw an Afircan woman pay for a drink. Matter of fact, they rarely came to the bar--the men did it and brought the drinks to them. Even brothers paid for their sisters and female cousins
It's just a drink I can see if were a house I'm a buy you a drank yeeeeeeeah I'm gonna take you home wit me I've bought a bottle of tequila only for us to drink and him to watch me get drunk as hell I stumble hard when I'm drunk
The new normal where? Basic bitch island? Like the font a few post above stated here in southern culture it is expected for a man to handle matters of the finances, us southern belles don't play dat :
lol I am glad you mentioned your experiences with African clubs.. because African men don't play that shit. But I will be damned if I ever payed for something unless it was after several times. I would feeling some type of way and wanted to pitch in for once..but nahh
Owwww.....Queen Tre got claws Also lets be clear if man buys you drank that doesn't mean y'all are dating nor will date And don't give your number out to men that you don't like Heels can and will be used as a weapon
Yeah, it's been talked about here a while ago, so it is rapidly approaching the new normal. I've seen it with my own eyes. Great bartender analysis!
Not me. In the words of the late Blanche Devereaux "I don't want to be treated as your equal, I want to be treated much better than you."
i dont think its that serious... granted, i wouldnt be doing that shit ALL THE TIME to just any dudes. i have bought dudes (my friends and my boyfriend) drinks before. its not even like we go out with the intention of me paying, but instead of the "who got what" shuffle and buffle, i just pull out my card and pay if its easier. clubs/bars are loud, ppl everywhere, friends get lost, i hate screaming over other people when its time to pay. if im not hurtin financially, i just pay and keep it moving. not that deep...
I'll pay for my own drink. Nobody needs to pay for me. And I ain't buying nobody (male or female) shit. They better pull out their money and get their own shit.
