HopeAndSlop
General Manager
Suppose we take marriage as being the ultimate goal (it need not be, but just saying it here for the sake of explanation),this is what men need to do (with the risk of rejection looming after each step):
Then there is the ‘80–20’ rule, due to which 80% of the women are only attracted to the top 20% of men. So it’s only easy for these top men. The remaining 80% of the men are left competing for just 20% of the women.
None of the arguments women make are not really measurable and logic. Women have it easier. Just look at tinder. Most girls that I know made tens and even hundreds of matches with guys. Most of my guy friends, even the decent looking ones still have trouble landing matches.
The real problem for women is actually having too many choices and suffering from decision fatigue. Online dating and the modern dating scene only made it worse. Having such a huge selection of guys is not really a blessing. It becomes tiresome and draining for women. Now imagine what’s like for men when they meet these bored women. These kind of bored women you find online everywhere
So my opinion is, unless you are the best of the best among the male species, the cream of the crop, the crème de la crème - dating is certainly MUCH harder for men. And almost always, it’s a ‘maximum investment, minimum returns’ preposition for us men. In the end, all we are left with, is emotional pain, misery, rejection and abandonment. Totally not worth it.
- Approach her
- Strike up a conversation
- Ask for the first date
- Pay for the date
- Lean forward for the first kiss
- Ask and pay for the second date
- Take the lead on xes
- Buy her the first gift
- Ask her to be their girlfriend
- Buy her a ring
- Get down on one knee
- Just sit around, without batting an eyelid or raising a finger, and wait for the men to approach.
- Once in the relationship, just stay with the man and relax, while he bends backwards to make things work and keep you interested in him.
- Taken or married
- Still hung up on an ex
- Already crushing on some other dude.
- Not available for a different reason (focus on career or something similar).
Then there is the ‘80–20’ rule, due to which 80% of the women are only attracted to the top 20% of men. So it’s only easy for these top men. The remaining 80% of the men are left competing for just 20% of the women.
None of the arguments women make are not really measurable and logic. Women have it easier. Just look at tinder. Most girls that I know made tens and even hundreds of matches with guys. Most of my guy friends, even the decent looking ones still have trouble landing matches.
The real problem for women is actually having too many choices and suffering from decision fatigue. Online dating and the modern dating scene only made it worse. Having such a huge selection of guys is not really a blessing. It becomes tiresome and draining for women. Now imagine what’s like for men when they meet these bored women. These kind of bored women you find online everywhere
So my opinion is, unless you are the best of the best among the male species, the cream of the crop, the crème de la crème - dating is certainly MUCH harder for men. And almost always, it’s a ‘maximum investment, minimum returns’ preposition for us men. In the end, all we are left with, is emotional pain, misery, rejection and abandonment. Totally not worth it.