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I’m just seeing something.

I’m 33 and still can pass for 21 years old. No kids and little relationship experience.

People have said to me the no relationship and no kid factors into my slow aging.

i usually take it with a grain of salt.

but the other day, there was a thread of a Bianca Lawson photo shoot.

someone mentions she is ageless due to lack of relationship and kids. She is 42, I believe and have some teens beat.

Is that a real correlation?

can anyone else relate?
 

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No stress. Worrying only about you and your immediate needs I guess.

Had this conversation with a coworker a few years ago when she asked what I did all weekend. I said I wasnt feeling well so I stayed home in bed all weekend. So she was like u did that??? I said yes. I dont have a husband or kids....I can lay in bed all day if and when I want to when I'm not feeling well. Just feed the cat. I literally only have to worry about myself, my pleasure, my needs, my wants and my well being.
 

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Do y’all think creating too many “soul ties” can age you? Not necessarily the act of xes but the transference of energy that ages you?
 

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Some people just have the aging like sour milk genetics. Also you can not have kids or do a lot of relationship but you can still have not so good lifestyle factors that contribute to aging like drinking too much, sleeping too little, barely exercising, stress, no skincare, and bad diet. As you get older you have to really keep on top of these things for self preservation. The reason why people in relationships and parents seem to age faster is because they tend to neglect or don't have time for these things.
 
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My mom had 12 kids. She wasn't overweight, didn't have any lines, sags or wrinkles. No alcohol or drugs ever. She lived over 90 years.
 

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Can you post a picture???I swear everyone thinks they look young when they really look their age. No shade.
I would love to but these streets and alleys are tough

eta: I know what you mean. But I’m positive I do. I’m in my 30s and when I’m out and about, older women say things like you are so cute/adorable like I’m a kid.
 
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Women who prioritize themselves mentally and physically age well.

I know older women who were in toxic ass marriages but they did not care for their husbands at all, so they stayed young lol. They stayed for convenience but kept themselves sharp.

The women who give and give without getting much back are the ones who age prematurely. Whether their relationship is "good" or not. A lot of them have inattentive husbands who they try to win over for decades. Or they transfer that codependent energy to their kids and age badly in that way.
 

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It's true. I had a coworker who was 35 no kids, had a sugar daddy, no relationship just did her own thing. Looked like a teenager and acted so cheerful and carefree.
 

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I agree with this. More people/things in your life= usually less sleep, or at least not quality sleep, more nights stressing. Also, depending on how well you do financially, you can afford to do more things to take care of yourself without kids (all organic foods, regular facials, massages, high-end skincare, fitness classes).
 

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I'm similar to you -- 35 years old, no kids, very little relationship experience, and people sometimes seem to assume Im in my early or mid 20s (early 20s is def stretch but these ppl are usually white and often british so...).

I am starting to think it helps. Whenever ppl ask me how I look so young, Im tempted to say "no husband, no kids", but I just keep it cute with "black don't crack".
 

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It's true. I had a coworker who was 35 no kids, had a sugar daddy, no relationship just did her own thing. Looked like a teenager and acted so cheerful and carefree.
I think this is another important part of it too -- your "vibe" came make you come across as younger to other people.
 

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No, I know plenty of young women with no kids/many relationships who look older than their bio age. One thing a lot of them had in common was they're on the heavier side and that weight ages them.
 

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No alcohol or drugs helps the aging process slow down.
this..........

Girls be 24 and sh!t bragging about drinking Henny every day just to celebrate getting in the damn car and by 30, they ass looks 50.

See it all the time.

Also heard of this guy fµck!ng this chick who he swore up and down was 26 and she was 40 and he was mad when he found out her age because he said she looked so young.

It's all about lifestyle.
 
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I’m just seeing something.

I’m 33 and still can pass for 21 years old. No kids and little relationship experience.

People have said to me the no relationship and no kid factors into my slow aging.

i usually take it with a grain of salt.

but the other day, there was a thread of a Bianca Lawson photo shoot.

someone mentions she is ageless due to lack of relationship and kids. She is 42, I believe and have some teens beat.

Is that a real correlation?

can anyone else relate?
I don't mean to be nosy, but how do people respond to you? Any snarky remarks? I'm only asking because I may be you in a decade.
 

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Stress can prematurely age you, but it’s not just stress. It’s also one’s genetics and epigenetics. I have teenagers and people usually assume I’m their older sister or auntie. People often think I’m in my late 20s to early 30s.
 
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No stress. Worrying only about you and your immediate needs I guess.

Had this conversation with a coworker a few years ago when she asked what I did all weekend. I said I wasnt feeling well so I stayed home in bed all weekend. So she was like u did that??? I said yes. I dont have a husband or kids....I can lay in bed all day if and when I want to when I'm not feeling well. Just feed the cat. I literally only have to worry about myself, my pleasure, my needs, my wants and my well being.

amazing, isn’t it? All you have to worry about is yourself. I love it. Lol.

I know for a fact I’m not a mom type. I like my own time and money too much. Which sounds incredibly selfish, but I’ve really learned this as I exited my twenties. I really like being able to do what I want when I want. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to give it up.

....and yes, stress free. All the sleep you lose being a parent. Then let’s not even get into marital stressors. For some people they’re willing to make the sacrifice. Me not so much, lol.
 

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I don't mean to be nosy, but how do people respond to you? Any snarky remarks? I'm only asking because I may be you in a decade.
Sometimes I wonder if guys don’t take me seriously because of my young aura. At work I’m babied a lot. It’s sometimes nice but want to be taken seriously most times. I think the big thing is being taken seriously though you look young. I got more snarky remarks when I was younger. People thought I was trying to act innocent.
 

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I think it is true . Hell folks are shocked when I tell them my age they always think Im 10-15 yrs younger than I am both young and old. lol It funny to see the looks on their faces when I say my age.
 

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My cousin just turned 47. Has four kids . Looks and sounds 22.

It’s called genetics lol. Like genetics determine how you look. Being childless is great and I love that freedom. But I know ugly childless people.

stress plays a big factor in how you age in general. So whether you’re stressing over kids a man or a job it can age you.... the key is keeping down stress. Childless people (Thankg Goodness!) have about half the stress of a parent

The kids is like meh. But man - less forever to look young ? No ma’am lol. I’m a Virgo I do single well. But xes also keep you young - hence my 47 year old cousin with four kids who’s married and looks 22 lol .
 

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I definitely agree! People still think I’m 21-23 but I’ll be 29 this year and I’m single, no kids, and have little relationship experience. Relationships and kids can age you prematurely especially if they’re unhealthy and you’re struggling financially to take care of your kids, which is why I’m not pressed for either one.

Lifestyle/genetics is also important too. As I get older, although genetics are on my side (people also think my mom is younger than she actually is), I am being much more diligent about staying active, eating as healthy as possible, and investing in my skincare/grooming
 

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I think it's more so genetics and having a healthy lifestyle. But a high stress lifestyle will age you. A no good man that you are running after will cause stress which will age you. A bunch of rowdy kids that you have to feed will age you. Taking care of a sick parent with no breaks will age you. All of those add to your stress levels which is why they are aging.

So does drinking and doing drugs.
 
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I definitely agree! People still think I’m 21-23 but I’ll be 29 this year and I’m single, no kids, and have little relationship experience. Relationships and kids can age you prematurely especially if they’re unhealthy and you’re struggling financially to take care of your kids, which is why I’m not pressed for either one.

Lifestyle/genetics is also important too. As I get older, although genetics are on my side (people also think my mom is younger than she actually is), I am being much more diligent about staying active, eating as healthy as possible, and investing in my skincare/grooming
Girl same exact situation as me! I’ll be 29 in September (God willing) and I’m single with no kids. Both my parents look 10 years younger than their actual age. My dad is 71 and looks like he’s in his 50s. I do a lot of juicing with greens, omega 3s, and water. I moisturize and use sunscreen too. Entering 30s is kinda scary but honestly since we both have all these advantages on our side we gone look amazing lol
 

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I can relate. Though you can look great with a man and kids...
When I see a woman distressed and not her best I automatically think her kids and or man is tearing her down.... lol
 

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Do y’all think creating too many “soul ties” can age you? Not necessarily the act of xes but the transference of energy that ages you?
It can, most stress on you can affect your looks. Soul ties don't just occur romantically, they can occur platonically. Soul ties usually have great influence on your decisions and how you feel about yourself. When they are negative, they aren't beneficial.
 

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Some fonts in here love that narrative. Very odd.


Nope, taking vitamins, staying hydrated, limiting alcohol and smoking, protecting skin from sunlight, good genes may someone look young. Period. Common sense.

If you want to stay child free cool, but no reason to fan that lie about mothers looking old. It's wrong and stupid and has no scientific basis in fact.

As far as relationships, maybe pick better.
 

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Some fonts in here love that narrative. Very odd.


Nope, taking vitamins, staying hydrated, limiting alcohol and smoking, protecting skin from sunlight, good genes may someone look young. Period. Common sense.

If you want to stay child free cool, but no reason to fan that lie about mothers looking old. It's wrong and stupid and has no scientific basis in fact.

As far as relationships, maybe pick better.
i agree many moms look young
 

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I’m just seeing something.

I’m 33 and still can pass for 21 years old. No kids and little relationship experience.

People have said to me the no relationship and no kid factors into my slow aging.

i usually take it with a grain of salt.

but the other day, there was a thread of a Bianca Lawson photo shoot.

someone mentions she is ageless due to lack of relationship and kids. She is 42, I believe and have some teens beat.

Is that a real correlation?

can anyone else relate?
33 isn’t even old though... what are you supposed to look like at 33? But yes I notice women who are 60+ never been married or had children and they look super young.

I don’t think it’s the fact you look younger, you look like how you’re supposed to look at that age, some people want to live a fast life and get into all these serious relationships at a young age and end up aging themselves.

I didn’t even want to be in a relationship when I didn’t even have a career yet 18-22. High schoolers are always thinking I’m the same age as them at 24. It’s not that I look young imo but other people my age look old because they do too much.

Women need to set boundaries when they get married and have kids, I know this one woman that told her husband she’s not cooking and cleaning they will have to hire help. It can be draining on one person to have to work and then come take care of everything at home alone. That’s why they say it take a village to raise a child.
 

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I just turned 30 and people tell me I look so much younger, I remember this guy I was dating mom said “what are you doing with that little ass girl” lmfao I was 27 at the time lmfao! I can pass for a 20 year old, I don’t have kids, nor do I let people stress me out, especially men

i take care of myself, no smoking anymore, hardly drink, eat somewhat healthy, take vitamins, drink water and mind my business.
 

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I would love to but these streets and alleys are tough

eta: I know what you mean. But I’m positive I do. I’m in my 30s and when I’m out and about, older women say things like you are so cute/adorable like I’m a kid.

my boyfriend moms calls me the same lmfao ma’am I’m 30.
 

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Not taking care of yourself and stress makes u look bad, whether you are a mother and in a relationship/marriage or not. that being said, having multiple children tends to have women being stressed out from constant care giving so they tend to look older.
 

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The 50 year old virgin on Wendy comes to mind!
Yes it's real and no joke. Men and kids will wear you out.
 

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i mean I guess,
But I look at people like Garcelle and Angela B. and I think it’s what someone else said, transfer of bad energy and stress, kids aren’t the only thing that cause stress
 

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