My coworker and I had this debate. Personally if I were on the market, I would not. Hell no.
Damn!!!! That’s awesome. Makes me look at it differently.My husband lived with his parents until he was 29 (he moved back home after grad school). He bought us a beautiful home (mortgage paid off in 4 years), subsequently bought one 4-unit and one 6-unit apartment building, has a great investment portfolio and lots of money saved. He was also able to provide a significant amount of start-up capital for my business...which allowed me the freedom to leave my job on my terms.
I'm glad I dated him. I always had my own place but he was very respectful about spending the night. He didn't try to move himself into my place and didn't allow himself to get too comfortable.
Everyone is different, but I wouldn't write a man off because he lived at home. I wouldn't, but that's me. Yall can set your own dating criteria.
I would. Especially depending on what he did for a living. And just cuz hes living with his parents doesnt mean he doesnt own the house or that he isnt living with them to take care of them and help them with their own day to day needs and expenses. Id actually think that very responsible of a man to do.My coworker and I had this debate. Personally if I were on the market, I would not. Hell no.
Exactly. Thats fiscally responsible and more black folks would be much better off if this were common practice for us like it is for people of other races.If they are using the opportunity to save money and buy themselves a home. Sure why not.
The area I live in has a lot of guest houses/apartments, either attached or detached from the main house. Some rent out to strangers but many of them are family. I recently met a divorced guy who lives in a 3/2 attached to his parent's house. I don't consider that living with his parents. He makes good money, travels a lot for work & pays all his bills. It's no different than having his own place except it's much cheaperOK so My friend's daughter is dating a guy that live in the guest house. Does that count? He's 24 years old and she said he's paying off student loans before he venture out into this cruel world.
How do you know if his parents actually live with him out of necessity? What if he was taken care of a parent because the parent was ill or a widow(er) who didn’t want to live alone?
You first need to understand the “why” as it could be deceiving and the guy could just actually love and care for his parent(s). Dismissing him on first glance might make you lose a really good man.
If they are using the opportunity to save money and buy themselves a home. Sure why not.
Depends on the reason why.
If it's because he's lazy or just doesn't want to live on his own. . then no.
But if he's taking care of his elderly parents, saving up to buy a home, or it's a short term solution then I don't see why not.
My husband lived with his parents until he was 29 (he moved back home after grad school). He bought us a beautiful home (mortgage paid off in 4 years), subsequently bought one 4-unit and one 6-unit apartment building, has a great investment portfolio and lots of money saved. He was also able to provide a significant amount of start-up capital for my business...which allowed me the freedom to leave my job on my terms.
I'm glad I dated him. I always had my own place but he was very respectful about spending the night. He didn't try to move himself into my place and didn't allow himself to get too comfortable.
Everyone is different, but I wouldn't write a man off because he lived at home. I wouldn't, but that's me. Yall can set your own dating criteria.
I would. Especially depending on what he did for a living. And just cuz hes living with his parents doesnt mean he doesnt own the house or that he isnt living with them to take care of them and help them with their own day to day needs and expenses. Id actually think that very responsible of a man to do.
Yeah end thread.If they are using the opportunity to save money and buy themselves a home. Sure why not.
End thread that's the case most of the time. Women be living at home too.Agreed with these. It really depends. I just can't ASSUME a man is lazy and that's why he lives with his parents...it has to be a specific reason, something that is around building his life (i.e saving to buy a home etc).
I don't know why some people never care about the reasons or the why's. To me, That's just tossing the baby out with the bath water, no why or reason needed. Lol.
Well I hope he helped them pay the bills and mortgage. I have a cousin that refuses to give my Aunt any money for bills and she has asked him to split half the bills with her but he said he won't because hes saving up to buy a house just like he saved up and bought his brand new car in full now he wants to buy a house so she has to pay for everything even the groceries she buys for them both. His dad made him pay half the bills but then when he died he stopped and refuses to give his mom anything for years. Also hes only had like three girlfriends I think they dumped him because he lives with his mom. Also my Aunt lives in an old house that needs a lot of work and it is going to take a lot of money and she always ask him to pitch in to fix up the house but he refuses and says this is your house not mine and I'm going to move out when I save up enough money and always tells her I have to save. So as long as a guy is not taking advantage of his parents and actually helps them but most women will think it is strange a guy that old that still lives with his parents. Also my cousin does not clean or cook or do his own laundryMy husband lived with his parents until he was 29 (he moved back home after grad school). He bought us a beautiful home (mortgage paid off in 4 years), subsequently bought one 4-unit and one 6-unit apartment building, has a great investment portfolio and lots of money saved. He was also able to provide a significant amount of start-up capital for my business...which allowed me the freedom to leave my job on my terms.
I'm glad I dated him. I always had my own place but he was very respectful about spending the night. He didn't try to move himself into my place and didn't allow himself to get too comfortable.
Everyone is different, but I wouldn't write a man off because he lived at home. I wouldn't, but that's me. Yall can set your own dating criteria.