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Would you forgive your sister for this

Would you forgive your sister for this

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pasolini

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I was in a relationship and cohabiting with him from August 2011-January 2012. After we broke up, I continued to stay there. I also suffered greatly during the break up.
My sister started coming home with him in July of that year and sleeping in bed with him. It happened at least 3 times. The second time I asked her to stop, she ignored me. I saw them cuddling. I also asked him to stop, and he came in bed with me then went back to his bed with her. She was 17. Now she's 25 and married, and they don't follow each other on SM. He has been contacting me to see him. I don't trust him, but I put most of the blame on her. My mom says that to this day she denies it happened. I can't even get an apology, and knowing her if I pressed her, she would post a publicly humiliating status on FB or something and block me. She obviously has no respect for me. Yet she's "there" for me and gets me gifts sometimes.
One of his friends and one of her friends said they had xes.
 

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What exactly did you ‘suffer’ from during a breakup over a relationship that wasn’t even 6 months?
 

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Don't let family guilt you into accepting and normalizing trash behavior because its family who're doing it.

Also, besides the ick factor of her being your sister, but she was under 18. Just no.
 
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You need to block him in every way possible (phone, social media, email etc.) You should't still be in contact with him for any reason.

I know I'll get groaned to death for this statment but you should forgive your sister, not because she deserves it but for yourself so that you can move on from the anger and hurt of what they did. You don't have to maintain a relationship with someone in order to forgive them.
 

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As much as I’d love to tell you **** her. She’s still your sister. I would tell her to speak to me when she’s ready to admit what she did was wrong and apologize. She’s only awarded that because she’s your sister. However, I would never let my guard down with her again.
 

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Has she ever apologized to you? Forgive if it would help you move forward, but I would keep her at a distance. Unless she owns up to what she did and apologizes for hurting you.

That male should already be blocked. He’s a creepy, heartless asshole who fµcked your teenage sister two minutes after you broke up with zero regard for your feelings or regular decency. Males like to circle back after time has passed in hopes that you forget the grimy sh!t they did the first time and you ready to be dumb over them again.
 

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block his ass, NEVER talk to him again. Do not go backwards, look forward.

It would be hard for me to trust my sister again, it takes alot of work. She sounds evil, especially since she will not own up to it and apologize.
 

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You put most of the blame on her? I think you should have the same energy towards both of them, they were well aware of what they were doing. sibling or not.
 

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I was in a relationship and cohabiting with him from August 2011-January 2012. After we broke up, I continued to stay there. I also suffered greatly during the break up.
My sister started coming home with him in July of that year and sleeping in bed with him. It happened at least 3 times. The second time I asked her to stop, she ignored me. I saw them cuddling. I also asked him to stop, and he came in bed with me then went back to his bed with her. She was 17. Now she's 25 and married, and they don't follow each other on SM. He has been contacting me to see him. I don't trust him, but I put most of the blame on her. My mom says that to this day she denies it happened. I can't even get an apology, and knowing her if I pressed her, she would post a publicly humiliating status on FB or something and block me. She obviously has no respect for me. Yet she's "there" for me and gets me gifts sometimes.
One of his friends and one of her friends said they had xes.

GIRL! That is not your sister, that is your enemy. Please research narcissist. Your sister sounds like one. Moving forward if it were me, I would never speak to her again, I would not have her around my children or husband, who knows what else she is capable of.

I am sorry this happened to you. Bout at least this happened in teen years with a boyfriend, and not with a husband you have children with. Do not tell her anything about your personal relationships with men or women , she will only use that info against you.
 

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Those saying “but it’s your sister”....
Think to yourself why she wasn’t thinking that before she fµcked ol boy. Idc if y’all was together six months , six years, six hours. She violated. fµck!ng behind family is GROSS. Dismiss BOTH of them.

she would get NO PASSES in my book.
graon away.
 

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GIRL! That is not your sister, that is your enemy. Please research narcissist. Your sister sounds like one. Moving forward if it were me, I would never speak to her again, I would not have her around my children or husband, who knows what else she is capable of.

I am sorry this happened to you. Bout at least this happened in teen years with a boyfriend, and not with a husband you have children with. Do not tell her anything about your personal relationships with men or women , she will only use that info against you.

Exactly.
 

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Those saying “but it’s your sister”....
Think to yourself why she wasn’t thinking that before she fµcked ol boy. Idc if y’all was together six months , six years, six hours. She violated. fµck!ng behind family is GROSS. Dismiss BOTH of them.

she would get NO PASSES in my book.
graon away.

1000% agreed!
 

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Nope. I've cut off people for less and I don't care who you are. The fact that they did this in front of your face after you asked them not to shows extreme disregard and disrespect. I'd never talk to either of those trash bags ever again.
 

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It's a bit bizarre that you say you put most of the blame on her. And you also admit she was underage. By how you're speaking I'm assuming both you and him were probably well over 18 and therefore if they did anything that is technically rape/molestation.

Don't get me wrong she's a conniving b*tch and deserves some grief but some parts of this post are a bit confusing.

"he went back to his bed with her." So he left your room and entered her room? Creepy
 

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It's a bit bizarre that you say you put most of the blame on her. And you also admit she was underage. By how you're speaking I'm assuming both you and him were probably well over 18 and therefore if they did anything that is technically rape/molestation.

Don't get me wrong she's a conniving b*tch and deserves some grief but some parts of this post are a bit confusing.

"he went back to his bed with her." So he left your room and entered her room? Creepy
him being 18 and her being 17 is not her being underage
 

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him being 18 and her being 17 is not her being underage

I wasn't aware that he was 18. If it's a mere year apart then no big deal but how old is op?

Not going to lie I find it iffy that they are only a year apart unless shes dating someone younger than her or her and her sister are a year apart as well.
 

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Reading that disgusted me .... sharing penis within the family.

But I do not understand you saying you put most of the blame on her. Yes, she is your sister and is the one who owes you the most loyalty, but she was 17, a stupid little teenager. How old was he?

edit: Nevermind. I see he was 18. I do not know. this is when you guys were so young. It is still hurtful and while I might still love and embrace my sister, I would have a hard time trusting her again and being close to her.
 

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I wasn't aware that he was 18. If it's a mere year apart then no big deal but how old is op?

Not going to lie I find it iffy that they are only a year apart unless shes dating someone younger than her or her and her sister are a year apart as well.

I had just turned 20 that june. So, he and I dated when he was 17 and i was 19. I get that dating younger is a horrible idea now
17 is age of consent where i live.
 

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I had just turned 20 that june. So, he and I dated when he was 17 and i was 19. I get that dating younger is a horrible idea now
17 is age of consent where i live.

I see. There’s nothing inherently wrong with dating someone younger.

Your sister AND this guy esp was inherently wrong for that. It’d be better to understand who was more in the wrong if we understood the dynamics. Who was living with who, who initiated etc (but you don’t need to answer that.) and it doesn’t technically matter at the end of the day.

But honestly I’d just be mindful that she was young, incredibly dumb, and it was hopefully a one time thing now that she’s married.

Holding hate in your heart like that will only effect your life.
 

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I'd forgive for peace of mind but I'd keep a distance. Maybe even joke on April Fool's that I slept with her hubby to say I got back at her. That way she knows how I felt, if I don't get an apology well at least maybe I got my point across.
 

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Bish I hope you are trolling !! You sound crazy ASF!!! Why would you need or want an apology from your sister!! Your sister ain’t Sh@$ and neither was your ex dude What is an apology gonna do Sis ?
 

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She turned out to be a snake and an enemy. Blocked everywhere. I didn't bring this up, she showed her colors unprovoked. The ex still is in contact and is seemingly supportive.
 

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