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Maybe unmotivated is the better word. But I have been working out with a friend, but lately she's just brining morale down. For example, when we work out and say we get hungry, she will want to go to restaurants with un-healthy food options. I am laidback so I go, but say I say let's get a plate to share because the portions are big, she said we should get more food and orders another plate. Or she will shorten the workout because she doesn't feel good, or rather just socialize. Meanwhile, when I workout solo, I am on my sh!t - I cook my foods and stay focused while working out. I even joked with her she's bad influence and she couldn't say sh!t because it's true. Should I stop working out with her?
 
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Have you said something to her about it? If you have and she's still behaving this way I would definitely cut her off.
 

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Have you said something to her about it? If you have and she's still behaving this way I would definitely cut her off.
i joked she's bad influence. One time she mentioned for us to get a burger after we workout,lol. I don't think a burger is bad, it's all about moderation, but you can't be eating like that regularly.
 

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Maybe unmotivated is the better word. But I have been working out with a friend, but lately she's just brining morale down. For example, when we work out and say we get hungry, she will want to go to restaurants with un-healthy food options. I am laidback so I go, but say I say let's get a plate to share because the portions are big, she said we should get more food and orders another plate. Or she will shorten the workout because she doesn't feel good, or rather just socialize. Meanwhile, when I workout solo, I am on my sh!t - I cook my foods and stay focused while working out. I even joked with her she's bad influence and she couldn't say sh!t because it's true. Should I stop working out with her?

If she's bringing down your healthy and fit vibe yes. That's the whole point of your working out.
 
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Lol cheating right after a workout? If shes causing too much of a headache it's best to just cut her off and find someone serious
 

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Yes. I drop lazy workout buddies with the quickness. They will hinder your results, even if unintentionally.

Those are the types to tell you your head looks big after you’ve lost weight.
 

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I just would stop working out with her...trust me you're probably the only reason she's been working out at all. I've been there before...having an intense workout session and the bish was like..."let's go to Popeye's" afterwards plus complaining before we even started working out and throughout the entire workout.

I just stopped hitting her up about working out or curved her when she asked about when I was hitting the gym together. Eventually the sh*t just worked itself out...because people like that aren't serious, it's just something to do while it's a real life change for you OP.
 

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Let her stray off on her own but lead by example, or just put your foot down and tell her about tastier healthy options.
 

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Start showing her pro-ana pics and forums
jk that's terrible advice
yeah just drop her
 

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Maybe unmotivated is the better word. But I have been working out with a friend, but lately she's just brining morale down. For example, when we work out and say we get hungry, she will want to go to restaurants with un-healthy food options. I am laidback so I go, but say I say let's get a plate to share because the portions are big, she said we should get more food and orders another plate. Or she will shorten the workout because she doesn't feel good, or rather just socialize. Meanwhile, when I workout solo, I am on my sh!t - I cook my foods and stay focused while working out. I even joked with her she's bad influence and she couldn't say sh!t because it's true. Should I stop working out with her?

Fck her.

My workout time is precious and I'm not wasting it on someone who is lazy and a bad influence.

Who tf wants to workout and then go to an unhealthy restaurant after?
Disrespectful people that's who.

If you ever come to my town you can be my gym buddy.

Some people are not about that life.
 

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I really don't like working out with people unless they are into fitness like I am and actually put in work. I don't want to spend the entire time talking. I want to get in, work my ass off for an hour and get out.
 
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Do your thing. Invite her to show up. If she comes she comes. If she leaves earlier than you that’s on her. You finish your workout. If she eats out you go home to your self prepared meals. It’s kind of simple really. Do you boo if she wants to tag along okay, but don’t cheat yourself on the process.
 

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I just would stop working out with her...trust me you're probably the only reason she's been working out at all. I've been there before...having an intense workout session and the bish was like..."let's go to Popeye's" afterwards plus complaining before we even started working out and throughout the entire workout.

I just stopped hitting her up about working out or curved her when she asked about when I was hitting the gym together. Eventually the sh*t just worked itself out...because people like that aren't serious, it's just something to do while it's a real life change for you OP.
My best friend said the same! She thinks for her, it's just for her to socialize,lol. But yeah, I am not gonna rely on her to workout.
 

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This is why I workout alone. I want to go at my pace and focused and compete with myself.

If I want to be social and workout, I'll do something light like go for walks or hikes or fun dance classes. But serious workouts I don't do with friends.
 

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Fck her.

My workout time is precious and I'm not wasting it on someone who is lazy and a bad influence.

Who tf wants to workout and then go to an unhealthy restaurant after?
Disrespectful people that's who.

If you ever come to my town you can be my gym buddy.

Some people are not about that life.
I used to take it personal when a friend who knew i was on a diet or trying to lose weight would put me in tempting situations.

I almost left my man over that shyt. I got goals heaux!
 

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I don’t like working out with others but if I did I would make sure who I was working out with was on the same page as me. We would have to be able to motivate each other if either of us was falling off.
 

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you need to find a better gym partner. it sounds like you’re serious and she’s not. or, you’re just going to have to straight up tell her, i’m not eating here i’m going home. if she’s complaining, put your headphones in. that’s if you just enjoy her presence that much. if she’s going to be there you need to set boundaries
 

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I am that lazy unmotivated friend......but I know better than to distract my more serious friends from their fitness goals and routines.....I bµllsh!t on my own
 
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I'm serious about my workouts and because of that, friends like to ask to join me. What I do is do my normal workout (an appointment to keep with myself) and look at exercising with a friend as purely social time. So, instead of us meeting up to go to a bar or restaurant we are meeting up to go to the gym/for a run. I get an extra workout in but I'm not pressed if it's a trash workout and they get to stay lazy but benefit a bit from my motivation. It's win-win. Restaurants, though. Girl, just order what works for you, eat first, or decline. "You know I can't eat there like that, but if you wanna grab ______ let me know!"
 

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I do not workout with anyone who is a beginner or lazy/not motivated. PERIODT.

Especially someone who does not have the right mindset regarding nutrition AND fitness.

It is a waste of time and they slow you down.
 

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Yes. That's why I don't like fitness buddies or accountability partners. And I hate when other people invite themselves to workout with me lol. One of you is going to eventually hold the other one back because more than likely your goals are different. I can admit I've been on both sides of the coin lol.

But for me me, I know now that once I set my fitness intentions I have to go it alone.
 

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I used to exclusively work out solo. But I met a girl in the gym who was going as hard as I was and we became friends. She's a great partner because we have similar schedules and we're both just trying to maintain vs. make drastic changes.
 

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OP, your post is the very reason I do not partner with other folks when it comes to working out. I do not have time for folks that back out at the last minute and not committed. I nip all that shyt in the bud on the spot. I don't have a need for a partner other than a personal trainer for a specific structured workout.
 

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